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Rants.
03-15-2012, 11:05 AM
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RE: Rants.
(03-15-2012 12:11 AM)Stephanie Wrote:  
(03-14-2012 11:15 PM)mirandagirl Wrote:  I hate feeling like I've never good enough for anyone. Just when I start to think someone actually cares, they just completely forget about me. I feel like I act one way, then people tell me to act another way so I change, then they still don't like me, so I change again, and they still don't like me. And I feel like I'm wasting my time saying all this. (I'll probably end up deleting this in like a day or so)

Don't change yourself for anybody. It's a saying everyone says but it's so true. You gotta be happy for others to accept you. Some people aren't going to and those are the ones you don't worry about because they are probably more unhappy with themselves than you could ever imagine so they tell you to change because they are not able to themselves.

I will say that there are different kinds of change, one of which I approve and one of which I don't approve. There is change in essence or a change in potential (or quality - I've got Aristotle in my head - blame him.)

I do not recommend anyone trying to change their essence (except a serial killer. (-Wink because it is rather impossible. The essence defines your likes and dislikes, your hobbies and habits, what motivates and inspires you, etc. If you're a math person, you're not suddenly going to fall in love with British Literature and vice-versa. But if there are ways to improve yourself (we can ALWAYS improve. Even the best of us can) do so to the utmost.

Quality / Improvement: I'll borrow Aristotle's metaphor about the seed and the tree. The seed has the potential to become a tree but is not yet a tree. A seed can remain a seed and produce nothing, rotting in the soil, or it can grow (with proper nourishment) into a beautiful tree.

The thing to figure out is whether its your essence or a quality in question. I'll give you an example. I had a coworker who was a very nice person. But every time he opened his mouth, the most crude and foul language, jokes, etc exploded that I could hardly bear to be around him. Everything was fecal matter, sex, incest, murder - gross, highly offensive stuff. It got to the point I would go out of my way to avoid him whenever possible.

Assuming for a moment that nastiness is his behavior, not who he is, he could make great strides in his conversation. I have my own irritating qualities - writing too much, thinking too much, being too "Type A". My store manager, who has taken an interest in me, says "you need to learn patience."

So I need to learn patience.

Figure out what these people are asking you to change, and then ask yourself if its reasonable or unreasonable. Being around others requires a modicum of diplomacy and compromise, ie: do you irritate them when you talk about fecal matter in regards to incestuous sex , lol?

Literature adds to reality, it does not simply describe it. It enriches the necessary competencies that daily life requires and provides; and in this respect, it irrigates the deserts that our lives have already become. CS Lewis.
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RE: Rants. - Firefly - 06-11-2012, 12:38 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-11-2012, 01:00 AM
RE: Rants. - Firefly - 06-11-2012, 01:09 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-12-2012, 01:52 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 06-12-2012, 04:25 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-12-2012, 09:42 AM
RE: Rants. - cblodg - 06-12-2012, 02:40 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-12-2012, 04:33 PM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 06-14-2012, 05:04 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 06-21-2012, 06:38 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-21-2012, 08:12 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 06-21-2012, 09:32 PM
RE: Rants. - Firefly - 06-22-2012, 12:43 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-03-2012, 01:21 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-03-2012, 11:43 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-04-2012, 12:13 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-04-2012, 12:21 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-04-2012, 12:31 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-04-2012, 12:37 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-04-2012, 01:00 AM
RE: Rants. - leftbehind. - 07-11-2012, 06:43 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-11-2012, 06:55 PM
RE: Rants. - leftbehind. - 07-11-2012, 06:58 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-11-2012, 07:01 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 07-11-2012, 07:06 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-23-2012, 05:16 AM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 09-03-2012, 12:54 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 09-17-2012, 03:26 AM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 09-21-2012, 04:00 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 09-24-2012, 04:30 PM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 09-24-2012, 06:29 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 09-25-2012, 01:14 AM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 09-26-2012, 01:55 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 09-26-2012, 06:25 AM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 10-02-2012, 10:21 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 10-02-2012, 02:06 PM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 10-02-2012, 04:12 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 10-03-2012, 01:11 PM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 11-06-2012, 11:03 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 11-09-2012, 04:35 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 11-11-2012, 01:48 PM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 11-10-2012, 05:10 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 01-03-2013, 04:29 AM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 04-23-2013, 09:55 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 05-02-2013, 03:15 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 05-02-2013, 04:55 AM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 05-03-2013, 05:53 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 05-06-2013, 02:35 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 06-20-2013, 10:24 AM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 07-24-2013, 12:19 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-24-2013, 10:18 PM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 07-25-2013, 12:47 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-26-2013, 04:08 PM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 07-27-2013, 01:34 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-27-2013, 04:57 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-31-2013, 03:38 PM
Rants. - michelle. - 01-01-2012, 12:17 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-02-2012, 04:01 AM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 01-02-2012, 04:35 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-02-2012, 04:55 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 01-02-2012, 05:04 PM
RE: Rants. - LuuuuuM - 01-02-2012, 06:22 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 01-04-2012, 07:30 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-04-2012, 10:08 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 01-04-2012, 11:03 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 01-05-2012, 09:11 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-07-2012, 01:55 AM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 01-07-2012, 02:01 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-07-2012, 02:50 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-22-2012, 07:36 PM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 01-23-2012, 12:05 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-23-2012, 01:36 PM
RE: Rants. - christiejlove - 01-25-2012, 08:34 PM
RE: Rants. - LoveYourFaith_OD - 01-26-2012, 12:04 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-26-2012, 02:11 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 01-29-2012, 03:36 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-01-2012, 02:55 AM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 02-01-2012, 01:01 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-02-2012, 03:27 AM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 01-26-2012, 01:57 PM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 01-28-2012, 08:15 PM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 01-29-2012, 12:07 AM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 01-31-2012, 10:06 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-04-2012, 05:26 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-04-2012, 06:59 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-05-2012, 03:09 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-05-2012, 03:22 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-06-2012, 01:54 AM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-08-2012, 05:39 PM
RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-09-2012, 12:04 AM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-09-2012, 07:18 AM
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RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-10-2012, 06:58 PM
RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-10-2012, 11:28 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 02-13-2012, 06:34 AM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-14-2012, 03:00 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-14-2012, 04:51 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-14-2012, 07:54 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-14-2012, 08:35 PM
RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-15-2012, 01:14 AM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-15-2012, 03:01 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-15-2012, 03:30 PM
RE: Rants. - ebryant1993 - 02-15-2012, 06:05 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-15-2012, 06:27 PM
RE: Rants. - ebryant1993 - 02-15-2012, 06:30 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 02-15-2012, 07:18 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-15-2012, 09:11 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-17-2012, 02:01 AM
RE: Rants. - samfron - 02-15-2012, 09:01 PM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-18-2012, 09:49 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-18-2012, 11:06 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-19-2012, 11:02 AM
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RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-19-2012, 01:38 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-19-2012, 04:24 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-19-2012, 04:41 PM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-19-2012, 10:22 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-20-2012, 10:49 AM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-20-2012, 05:33 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-21-2012, 02:31 AM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 02-21-2012, 05:40 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-21-2012, 04:21 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-21-2012, 05:04 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-21-2012, 07:58 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-21-2012, 08:14 PM
RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-22-2012, 01:17 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 02-22-2012, 08:00 AM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-22-2012, 11:37 AM
RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-22-2012, 01:31 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-22-2012, 04:08 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-22-2012, 05:12 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-22-2012, 06:55 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-23-2012, 01:59 AM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-24-2012, 05:58 PM
RE: Rants. - christiejlove - 02-25-2012, 07:42 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-25-2012, 10:35 PM
RE: Rants. - christiejlove - 02-26-2012, 06:42 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-26-2012, 06:46 PM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 02-29-2012, 08:50 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 03-01-2012, 02:18 AM
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RE: Rants. - What'sLeftofMe - 03-04-2012, 04:22 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 03-11-2012, 02:14 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 03-12-2012, 02:03 PM
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RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 03-13-2012, 01:38 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 03-14-2012, 03:55 AM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 03-13-2012, 04:00 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 03-14-2012, 11:15 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 03-15-2012, 12:11 AM
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RE: Rants. - michelle. - 03-15-2012, 01:49 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 03-16-2012, 06:08 AM
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RE: Rants. - michelle. - 03-16-2012, 05:29 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 03-17-2012, 08:49 PM
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RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 03-17-2012, 05:44 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 03-18-2012, 04:05 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 03-18-2012, 10:09 PM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 03-17-2012, 06:15 PM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 03-31-2012, 03:35 AM
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RE: Rants. - BEE. - 03-31-2012, 05:54 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 04-05-2012, 02:12 AM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 04-08-2012, 10:11 PM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 04-08-2012, 10:16 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 04-09-2012, 09:38 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 04-13-2012, 05:30 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 04-14-2012, 04:29 AM
RE: Rants. - LoveYourFaith_OD - 04-08-2012, 10:26 PM
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RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 04-10-2012, 02:45 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 04-11-2012, 01:28 AM
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RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 04-28-2012, 10:26 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 05-01-2012, 01:26 AM
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RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 05-01-2012, 10:51 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 05-05-2012, 01:10 AM
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