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Rants.
02-03-2012, 06:27 PM
Post: #37
RE: Rants.
(02-02-2012 07:50 AM)Fruitfly Wrote:  
(01-22-2012 07:19 PM)lashay12 Wrote:  okay am so sick of my mother making a big issue over one little thing i say to my little brother. but when she wants me to talk to my stepfather whenever they have an argument am suppose to run to her defense? in fact i maybe just commit suicide tonite,

I just read this (haven't looked at the thread in awhile.) Would you do me a favor, Lashay, and this is for you, not me, but would you seek out counseling? There's a lot of free counseling services or sliding scale services that will work with you. You need someone who you can talk to - in person. If you don't know where to start, ask the guidance counselor at your school.

I truly hope you did not end your life the other day. I checked and you haven't posted since then so yes, I am concerned. Drop me a note and let me know that you're okay, please.
(01-31-2012 10:06 PM)teamnoelftw. Wrote:  Can I just say, where's the love on this forum? Seriously. It feels like I walk in on a fight every couple days about NOTHING.

Ever since the breakup, I feel no love at all. Not even a simple "you're right; let's move on." What the hell?

I'm sorry, but if this is how the forum's gonna be, imagine how the new members feel.

That's because this forum is made up of 99% girls, and girls haven't a firm grasp on reason, and therefore think and react with their emotions. Part of this is developmental - teenage brains haven't reached maturity yet.

Thinking allows us to distance ourselves from a situation and from our own emotions, consider the facts, consider things from another person's viewpoint, and to make a decision considering all the information. You'll notice that the older teens and young 20's on this site have this ability or are evincing signs of this ability.

And then there is also something called a "third-party observer". A psychiatrist of mine told me I have this, and it's rare, but a good thing. I think it might be the component of the personality that engages in the above, that mediates between the self and the other.

I do believe there is a whole lot of psychological idealization, identification and projection, denial and justification that goes on, and it's in my nature (for better or worse) to cut through another person's b.s. or delusional thinking. A person cannot face the truth so long as they are engaged in every form of illogical thinking or psychological defense mechanism to avoid facing the truth. Facing the truth hurts, sometimes it really hurts, but on the other side of it things are so much better, and the person grows towards maturity in this way.

Sometimes I'm "harsh", but in a debate you state your opinion as a fact (avoid the "I" as it weakens the argument) and then your evidence. (-;

I skimmed over all that you wrote but I do agree. About it all :] Who I was at 14 on here is NOT what I am now at 21. It makes me feel better to know there is hope for some of the young ladies on this forum seeing how immature I once was...and sometimes still am. I'm an emotional thinker though and I react inappropriately with my emotions sometimes but that's in my entire family so I swear it's genetic lol
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RE: Rants. - Firefly - 06-11-2012, 12:38 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-11-2012, 01:00 AM
RE: Rants. - Firefly - 06-11-2012, 01:09 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-12-2012, 01:52 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 06-12-2012, 04:25 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-12-2012, 09:42 AM
RE: Rants. - cblodg - 06-12-2012, 02:40 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-12-2012, 04:33 PM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 06-14-2012, 05:04 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 06-21-2012, 06:38 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 06-21-2012, 08:12 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 06-21-2012, 09:32 PM
RE: Rants. - Firefly - 06-22-2012, 12:43 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-03-2012, 01:21 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-03-2012, 11:43 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-04-2012, 12:13 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-04-2012, 12:21 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-04-2012, 12:31 AM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-04-2012, 12:37 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-04-2012, 01:00 AM
RE: Rants. - leftbehind. - 07-11-2012, 06:43 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-11-2012, 06:55 PM
RE: Rants. - leftbehind. - 07-11-2012, 06:58 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-11-2012, 07:01 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 07-11-2012, 07:06 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 07-23-2012, 05:16 AM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 09-03-2012, 12:54 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 09-17-2012, 03:26 AM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 09-21-2012, 04:00 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 09-24-2012, 04:30 PM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 09-24-2012, 06:29 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 09-25-2012, 01:14 AM
RE: Rants. - BEE. - 09-26-2012, 01:55 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 09-26-2012, 06:25 AM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 10-02-2012, 10:21 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 10-02-2012, 02:06 PM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 10-02-2012, 04:12 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 10-03-2012, 01:11 PM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 11-06-2012, 11:03 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 11-09-2012, 04:35 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 11-11-2012, 01:48 PM
RE: Rants. - gallagher - 11-10-2012, 05:10 PM
RE: Rants. - puckleberryftwx - 01-03-2013, 04:29 AM
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RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 05-03-2013, 05:53 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 05-06-2013, 02:35 AM
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RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 07-24-2013, 12:19 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-24-2013, 10:18 PM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 07-25-2013, 12:47 PM
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RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 07-27-2013, 01:34 AM
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RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 07-31-2013, 03:38 PM
Rants. - michelle. - 01-01-2012, 12:17 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-02-2012, 04:01 AM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 01-02-2012, 04:35 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-02-2012, 04:55 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 01-02-2012, 05:04 PM
RE: Rants. - LuuuuuM - 01-02-2012, 06:22 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 01-04-2012, 07:30 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-04-2012, 10:08 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 01-04-2012, 11:03 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 01-05-2012, 09:11 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-07-2012, 01:55 AM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 01-07-2012, 02:01 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-07-2012, 02:50 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-22-2012, 07:36 PM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 01-23-2012, 12:05 PM
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RE: Rants. - christiejlove - 01-25-2012, 08:34 PM
RE: Rants. - LoveYourFaith_OD - 01-26-2012, 12:04 AM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 01-26-2012, 02:11 AM
RE: Rants. - Londonlipton - 01-29-2012, 03:36 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-01-2012, 02:55 AM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 02-01-2012, 01:01 PM
RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-02-2012, 03:27 AM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 01-26-2012, 01:57 PM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 01-28-2012, 08:15 PM
RE: Rants. - mariahh. - 01-29-2012, 12:07 AM
RE: Rants. - teamnoelftw. - 01-31-2012, 10:06 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-04-2012, 05:26 PM
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RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-05-2012, 03:09 PM
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RE: Rants. - Stephanie - 02-06-2012, 01:54 AM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-09-2012, 12:04 AM
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RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-10-2012, 06:58 PM
RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-10-2012, 11:28 PM
RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 02-13-2012, 06:34 AM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-14-2012, 03:00 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-14-2012, 04:51 PM
RE: Rants. - michelle. - 02-14-2012, 07:54 PM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-15-2012, 01:14 AM
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RE: Rants. - ebryant1993 - 02-15-2012, 06:05 PM
RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-15-2012, 06:27 PM
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RE: Rants. - Fruitfly - 02-15-2012, 07:18 PM
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RE: Rants. - SLE - 02-22-2012, 01:17 AM
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RE: Rants. - mirandagirl - 02-22-2012, 06:55 PM
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RE: Rants. - What'sLeftofMe - 03-04-2012, 04:22 PM
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