mothers : /

[TAS.]

okay this is so utterly uninteresting but i need to get it out.

so im supposed to be going to town with mates tomorrow and its been planned for weeks.
and now my mum cant be bothered to pick me up in the evening.
whats that about??
goodgod its infuriating.
i was like 'why cant you give a damn about someone else for once'
she always does this.
if i ask for something i need she wont do it.
and she whines that im spoilt and everything
but whenever she wants something and she cant have it, its a huge deal!
she wont take me anywhere, not even to my dads :(
i dont get it!
she acts like a spoilt little sister instead of my mum.

also, she has this boyfriend who moved in with us a year ago after they'd been going out for a month or two. she didnt even ask if it was okay with me.
he acts really off with me like he hates me.
i tried talking to her about it but she doesnt listen and just says im being stupid and imagining it.
my dad understands and tried talking and then she yelled at me for talking to him about it and not her!?!

does anyone else have this problem with their mum?

[rose garden.]

I'm sorry ):

[white demon]

yesss, at least you know your not alone. (:
and whats it got to do with her if you talk to your dad
he's your parent also, he has your best interest at heart too.

[lost in the stereo.]

im adopted.
its hard, because changing my mothers is complicated in a way.
ive had like six mums in the past six years.
each and everyone i had to get used to THEIR rules.
you need to bare with her, or go melo-dramatic about it all and she will hopefully listen.
when i finaly got adopted it was fustrating cause im more cockney and i dont do things perfectly but i came into a family that was posh, and perfectionist from the word go.
i was like 'i cant do this, its so hard i cant get used to this lifestyle so quickly!' and kicked up a fuss, now they allow that i am sloppy at times and i am very laid back.

it sounds like your mum is missing out on yuo growing up.
i know the feeling, my real mum is too.

i hope you feel better soon
my thoughts are with you :)

[TAS.]

thanks guys you're all really sweet to even bother reading my little rant. x

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