My parents are judgemental.

[carlo]

I think this is way too personal for me to share, but i'll do it anyway because I have a lot on my mind. My parents ask me questions I don't like being asked.


They ask me about my sexuality.


And its hard for me, because


Why would they ask their son over and over again, its just not right.
Parents shouldn't do that, because it makes their self-esteem much lower.
When I come home crying to them asking whats wrong and I tell them whats bothering me, the first thing they ask me is, "Did they call you gay?" And then, they make comments like that to me, like, WTF?

I just brought it up today because it recently just happened. I bought a present from the Sanrio store for a friend, thats a girl. The conversation went like this.

"Why did you buy that, you're only wasting your money. Only gay people buy that."
"She asked for it, and whats wrong with it?"
"You could have bought something else."

I didn't talk to her the rest of the day. I don't get what i'm doing wrong, I don't understand why they would ask if i'm gay. It just bothers me a lot that they make assumptions.

I don't know what to do. :?

[cut me open.]

they sound terrible=/
just ignore them when they ask u
those questions

[across the universe.]

aw, i'm sorry.
just try to ignore it
& ask them to please
stop because it's
hurting you.

[AFRICA]

Sadly most parents don't want their kids to be gay for fear of not having grandchildren. I've grown up my whole life hearing the words queeer fagg and stuff like that. A lot of the times since i'm not the most masculine guy I feel my mom goes out of her way to call a gay guy that to try and scare me to not being gay. I'm bisexual btw.
It sucks, the last thing you want to do is dissapoint your parents. But if your not gay then tell your parents. Tell them it hurts your feelings, and if they are good parents they would stop!

[come_back_to_me]

yeah, I can relate to that too.
unfortunately, the best thing to do when they ask you that is just ignore them.
sorry you have to go through that. sometimes parents can be real stupid. but in the end you realize that they want the best for you. i haven't really gotten to that point yet.

[carlo]

Thanks guys so much for the advice. I guess I have to go through it, and there's no other way around. I really don't like discussing about this kind of stuff, but I was furious that day and I needed to spill my feelings out somewhere.

[chickanoodle.]

im sorry ):

[come_back_to_me]

yeah, but it's cool to give ppl advice.
don't worry about it, hun. (:

hope it gets betterr.

[white demon]

i'm sorry they do that.
my family can assume things and i hate it because they assume their always gonna be right and when there wrong they deny it.

so i'm here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.
and i understand exactly, just tell them how you feel
you shouldnt bottle your feelings up
because they would probably understand if you told them and maybe they would stop.

[come_back_to_me]

agreed. it totally sucks. but it eventually works out.

[Baby _ Jx3]

i'm sorry that happened to you
you should explain to your parents about how badly you're hurting and how you don't feel comfortable sharing your sexuality to them, that's the best way.

[come_back_to_me]

yeah, just tell them that it's not fair to YOU for that to happen.
If they don't listen and ground you or something, keep trying.
It can be really emotional, hun, I know.
But keep trying and it should work out fine.



Again, I'm sorry that happened to you.

Best wishes,
Lauren <3

[kayliefron_]

tell them you feel uncomfortable when they ask those kinds of
questions. then maybe they will stop. that's stupid that they
keep bringing that up.

[come_back_to_me]

yeah, it is.
don't let it get to youu.
that's not fair to YOU.

[emily.]

next time they ask you, just say hey- it really makes me feel bad when you ask me things like that!
tell them how you feel, don't bottle everything up, and eventually they will accept you for whatever, i promise.
feel free to PM me if you need any help with anything! (:

[carlo]

i haven't paid any attention to this thread, i guess i'm a bit sensitive on this kind of topic! but thanks guys for all your suggestions.
right now i can't really tell them or discuss it with them as i don't think its right for me at my age to be discussing about it with my parents yennoe? i'll just keep it to myself until i think its the right time to, you know.

seriously, you guys are AMAZING! thanks so much. :) -tear-

[come_back_to_me]

no problem. :)
seriously, I have a ton of problems myself, so it's nice to know that someone needs to know MY point of view once in a while. (:
but that doesn't happen very often, so I'm glad you started this thread.
Good luck!!

-Lauren