bleed it out; [ask me anything.]

[diana bear]

i wrote an advice column for my school a couple of years ago and i think it helped people with most of their problems.
so let's try it here.
ask me anything.
anything at all.
i'll do my best to give you a resolution.
i'm great to rant to.

FOR BIG PROBLEMS;
and by 'big problems' i mean sexual orientation issues, self-abuse problems, and religion questions:
you should DEFINETELY join SocialVibe and check out the To Write Love On Her Arms forums. there are SO MANY PEOPLE that are going through the same thing you are, and it's insane how much response you get and how many people really care about you! I'm getting help from a junior pastor about my religion questions. Plus, you're doing all of this while earning money for your cause. My username is: dianaleslie.Ask me to invite you!

[iloveyoudude]

i will be your first umm, customer if you will?

may i rant?

[diana bear]

please do.
just go right ahead; no permission is nessicary.

[iloveyoudude]

oh man, i forgot to type it.
haha my baad.

(:

well.

i like this guy, right? he and i hang out alot at school, walking
around together standing in a group together all that jazz. which is
amazing. haha we flirt alot and he is just so cute and funny. which
is great, he seems to love having me around. and i love that. hah

so my three closest friends know i like him. but what reeeally bugs me is the
fact that my one friend always flirts with him right infront of me. she's not the girly,
flirty type so i don't get it. she never used to act like this and now that i told her she's
like 'oh hey you can sit with me! oh my gosh, you were so good in band today!" and i'm kinda
left sitting there wondering what the hell is going on. she says she likes this one guy then she see's
him kissing some random person at a dance and was like ehh i don't like him anymore.
which is weird 'cause if that was me i'd feel a little hurt and it would take a while to get over. but whatever.

now she says she likes her ex-boyfriend but it so doesn't seem like it. she won't talk to him or anything and acts like she hates him. it's insane! i kinda like her ex-boyfriend though. but i would never go out with him 'cause she would be insanely pissed of. but i talk to him all the time in class and according to my friends i flirt with him and he flirts back, but what i don't mind. it's not like i'm doing this on purpose or right infront of her when i know she has feelings for this guy.

i just don't understand what's going on and it's really annoying cause she is always trying to but in when i'm talking to him adn stuff but she doesn't like him, or so she says.


AGH. sorry that was long but damn, i am p i s s e d.

[brandnewlove.]

i need to rant. :]

okay so my two friends, A & IR, are on holidays right now and one, M, is here.
so IR comes online and me, IR & M were talking on msn.
so i was like we'll watch hsm3 on sunday and she's like no i can't watch it gotta study for the english cause i didn't do anything. then i asked when she arrives on saturday & she says 9 in the morning, then she says no i gotta study i haven't done anything. i was like greatt. then she said it'd be okay if i went with M & A. then all of a sudden M says, i can't come either i gotta study for the test too. so if i'm lucky A will go with me. but i guess i won't be. like wtf, it pisses me off so much.
first they say yes and then they blow me off!! AHHHHHH. sorry just had to let that out.

[diana bear]

_archuholic:
with this first guy, i would assume she's being friendly/flirty for the main purpose of annyoing you/plssing you off. ask her about it, and if she's really your friend, she'll just be playing around. and hey, if you and this friend are hanging around together a lot, maybe she's attracting him in your direction.

when she sees some random guy and likes him, then sees that he's taken and forgets him, i would say that's normal. i see random hot guys walking around the mall all the time, it doesn't mean i'm going to pursue them.

ex-boyfriends are hard to read. i still hang around with mine, he's my 'pet' (we call him fifi the gingercat, haha). for moments at a time, i sometimes think i still like him. but then, i remember what happened and why i broke up with him, and all of those feelings go away. if you like her boyfriend, ask him out. don't ask her first (that's probably against anything you've ever heard) if it's okay. it's not her choice to choose who you date.

high hopes.:
you're not the only one. about a week or so before The Dark Knight came out, I texted about six of my friends asking if they wanted to go. four replied, only one agreed. we went and had a great time. don't worry if lots of people don't want to/can't go. your real friends will make it up to you in the future.

[brandnewlove.]

thanks, but those are supposed to be my real friends, like we're extremely close.
anyways, i'm gonna talk to them so that they feel bad.
cause they always tell me, yeah you have plenty of time the rest of the days and force me to go.
but thanks. :]

[diana bear]

i wouldn't suggest making them feel bad.
it'll just start another fight.
tell them how you feel.

[iloveyoudude]

_archuholic:
with this first guy, i would assume she's being friendly/flirty for the main purpose of annyoing you/plssing you off. ask her about it, and if she's really your friend, she'll just be playing around. and hey, if you and this friend are hanging around together a lot, maybe she's attracting him in your direction.

when she sees some random guy and likes him, then sees that he's taken and forgets him, i would say that's normal. i see random hot guys walking around the mall all the time, it doesn't mean i'm going to pursue them.

ex-boyfriends are hard to read. i still hang around with mine, he's my 'pet' (we call him fifi the gingercat, haha). for moments at a time, i sometimes think i still like him. but then, i remember what happened and why i broke up with him, and all of those feelings go away. if you like her boyfriend, ask him out. don't ask her first (that's probably against anything you've ever heard) if it's okay. it's not her choice to choose who you date.

high hopes.:
you're not the only one. about a week or so before The Dark Knight came out, I texted about six of my friends asking if they wanted to go. four replied, only one agreed. we went and had a great time. don't worry if lots of people don't want to/can't go. your real friends will make it up to you in the future.


thank youu, i really appreciate it.

((:

[diana bear]

anytime, that's what i'm here for =]

[brandnewlove.]

i wouldn't suggest making them feel bad.
it'll just start another fight.
tell them how you feel.

okay this may make me/us sound like weirdos but we are.
hah, we always fight when we're together. we fight at least one time.
it's just how it is.
but in the end it's all good .
and if not at least two hours after we went home. :]
and of i sure tell them how i feel.
thanks for your advice.

[diana bear]

oh. okay then.
well, whatever you say.

[diana bear]

anybody else need some advice?

[iloveyoudude]

meee again.


haha so i'm back. this time it's not so much about my friend. that's all straightened out. i hope. so thanks for that! this time i am not so much as going to rant but actually ask your oppinion, i know, i know.i'm weird. but anywhoo i'm gonna ask anyway;


i was chillin after school with the guy i like hah it was brief but totally rocked my world. That sounded lamee. haha and i was with a friend of mine and this other random guy hah that guy put my crush's hat on my friends head and she freaked and all that right. so then he goes to put it on me and i'm like i don't do hats and my crush said he'd love to see me in a hat :/ then we like got into this play fight of him trying to get me to wear that hat and he was like 'DO IT!' so the one kid was like, 'what? yeah you would want to bang her..' and the guy i like was like 'of course. SHABAM!' and like thrusted ahha it was funny but incredibly awkward. i guess what i'm asking is, is this a sign that he may like me? or should i try and get over him?


thankyouu for listening and fyi, you're amazing.


((:

[annzie]

is it okay if i rant? (:

i like this guy, you know. and i'm afraid he doesn't like me back. typical, i know. i mean, i danced with him at my school dance like, two days ago, but that doesn't mean anything, does it? i don't know if i should make 'the first move' or if i should wait. but, i'm just afraid that if i wait, it'll be too late. haha, that rhymed. sorry, i'm getting off-topic. anyways, what should i do? i don't want to make anything too awkward, i'm going to a party he'll be at tomorrow.

okay, thanks. i'd love you if you helped me! (:

[diana bear]

ask him if the dance you had was a one-time thing, or if he wants to continue dancing with you.
you shouldn't wait. don't wait for him to make the move first, because us women expect guys to know things, when they don't. they don't know what to do. that's why we marry them and straighten them up.

if he says that it was just a one-time thing, then get to know him. become friends, get closer to him, and maybe one day he'll see the light.

[diana bear]

meee again.


haha so i'm back. this time it's not so much about my friend. that's all straightened out. i hope. so thanks for that! this time i am not so much as going to rant but actually ask your oppinion, i know, i know.i'm weird. but anywhoo i'm gonna ask anyway;


i was chillin after school with the guy i like hah it was brief but totally rocked my world. That sounded lamee. haha and i was with a friend of mine and this other random guy hah that guy put my crush's hat on my friends head and she freaked and all that right. so then he goes to put it on me and i'm like i don't do hats and my crush said he'd love to see me in a hat :/ then we like got into this play fight of him trying to get me to wear that hat and he was like 'DO IT!' so the one kid was like, 'what? yeah you would want to bang her..' and the guy i like was like 'of course. SHABAM!' and like thrusted ahha it was funny but incredibly awkward. i guess what i'm asking is, is this a sign that he may like me? or should i try and get over him?


thankyouu for listening and fyi, you're amazing.


((:


well, if he does this with a lot of girls, or makes sick jokes in general, then it might not be you. i know a lot (a lot) of sick-minded people, and they make jokes like that regularly. he might like you and want a relationship, or he might just want to bang you. depends, are you friends with this guy?
i don't like the term of 'getting over' someone.. because you never really get over them. your feelings decrease and you put them away in a little box inside and don't tell anyone about it.. they don't leave you. but until you get the sexual messages straight, decrease the feelings and put them in the cookie jar.

and thank you =]

[iloveyoudude]

yeah he and i are really good friends. hah we talk and hang out at school all the time and before that i was walking down the hallway and he just shouts my name (happens all the time) so we talk another friend shows up and tells him to follow her so i was like lost and asked where they were going and he's like 'i'm going with her..wanna come?' with this cute little smile so. i dunno. MIXED SIGNALS SUCK, i must say.

and yeah hah he does make sick jokes but never anything to do with..that. usually just stupidness and this was actually the kid we were with and he decided to take the idea and run with it i guess. it was really funny and i'm not gonna lie, i did think it was incredibly sexy the way he did but i just dunno.



thank you once again for you're input. you were/aare a big help.

hah expect me to be in here alot. ((:

[annzie]

ask him if the dance you had was a one-time thing, or if he wants to continue dancing with you.
you shouldn't wait. don't wait for him to make the move first, because us women expect guys to know things, when they don't. they don't know what to do. that's why we marry them and straighten them up.

if he says that it was just a one-time thing, then get to know him. become friends, get closer to him, and maybe one day he'll see the light.
if this was to me: thankyou.

[diana bear]

yeah he and i are really good friends. hah we talk and hang out at school all the time and before that i was walking down the hallway and he just shouts my name (happens all the time) so we talk another friend shows up and tells him to follow her so i was like lost and asked where they were going and he's like 'i'm going with her..wanna come?' with this cute little smile so. i dunno. MIXED SIGNALS SUCK, i must say.

and yeah hah he does make sick jokes but never anything to do with..that. usually just stupidness and this was actually the kid we were with and he decided to take the idea and run with it i guess. it was really funny and i'm not gonna lie, i did think it was incredibly sexy the way he did but i just dunno.



thank you once again for you're input. you were/aare a big help.

hah expect me to be in here alot. ((:
mixed signals do suck. i've been through a lot of that.
but from the example you've given me, i would really think he's flirting with you, unless he's just a flirty guy.
i'm not going to tell you to ask him, because that could ruin your friendship (or at least take a while to rebuild it). get one of your friends (perferrably a guy friend) if he likes you. that way, it's just a conversation between two guys. plus, it seems like all guys are friends in some way.

haha, that's alright, misery loves company =]


if this was to me: thankyou.
twas =]

[iloveyoudude]

mixed signals do suck. i've been through a lot of that.
but from the example you've given me, i would really think he's flirting with you, unless he's just a flirty guy.
i'm not going to tell you to ask him, because that could ruin your friendship (or at least take a while to rebuild it). get one of your friends (perferrably a guy friend) if he likes you. that way, it's just a conversation between two guys. plus, it seems like all guys are friends in some way.

haha, that's alright, misery loves company =]


twas =]


oh ((:

hah he and i had a solid talk last night about an hour and a half.
he said that even though we don't talk much, it's fun when we did and it was a good talk. at one point i said i'd yell at this one girl if she was gonna be mean and he said that i was becoming 'quite teh caring type' and that it's really great. soo that was amazing. and then i had to go to bed and he said sweet dreams (:

and i totally agree. thank you for the advice and you know i will be back!

[diana bear]

aww, it sounds like a happy ending to me!

[iloveyoudude]

yeee (:

i love him so much. it's insane.

[diana bear]

are you saying that seriously? you really love him?

[iloveyoudude]

i don't know. like i have really strong feelings for him
but.. i'm not sure.

[diana bear]

love is a strong word.

[iloveyoudude]

yeah, i know. i'm not sure.
hah it's complicated, you know? i do but then i don't want to be that serious yet.
and then i'm a little uncomfortable saying that andd. yeah it's all up in the air right now.

[diana bear]

don't say things you don't mean, but i'm sure one day you'll get to say that and mean it.

[iloveyoudude]

thanks. that's good advice. (:

[diana bear]

To anyone and everyone that replies next - I'm sick in bed right now and i'll reply whenever i get on the computer next.

[across the universe.]

OKAY SO.
lately i'm soo numb to everything.
it's so weird okay wait i've made a thread about
thiss so i'll just copy & paste.
okay soo.
i've tried explaining this to all of my friends
but no one really understands me.
lately (for about the past 4 months)
i haven't really been feeling anything.
it's sooo weird & complicated i don't
even know how to explain.
like whenever i'm sad, i know i'm sad and
i cry but i still don't feel pain.
ughh i know you don't get it.
okay for example, like physicallyy
i touch something and if it's soft
i know it's soft but i don't really FEEL it.
okay what im trying to say is that
i don't feel alive at all and days
are going by SUPER fast.
and it's starting to worry me..
advice?

...

yeah, & then lately i feel so isolated
from everything & everyone.
like everyday i just hang out with myself.
i mean, it's not like i don't have friends
or anything. i do hang out with them
but i still feel that way. like i come home
after school, eat, watch tv & then the day
ends. it's always that way, idasklsd.
& i always feel like crying. hfj.

[diana bear]

okay.
so with this touch/feel thing, is it just the feel of it? can you feel heat?
either way, i think you should see a doctor.
your doctor or therapist can be your best friend. they're honest and they know what's best for you.

with your second problem, i think you might be chronically depressed.
my friend, when she's really depressed, isolates herself from everything and everyone. doesn't eat, doesn't talk, doesn't blink.
she sits on a bench and cries in her free time those days.
again, if you always feel this way, and it continues, talk to your school's guidance counselor/parents/doctor.

and don't be afraid of how your parents will react. they may not do what you want them to do, but they do what's best for you. and you see all the results in the end.

[across the universe.]

thankss a lot.
& yes i can feel everything, but i don't feel like
i'm feeling it, you know what i mean?
& yes you're right. i gotta talk to someone.

btw now i have another problem.
idk i've been feeling really sad 'cause
i feel like my family is slowly tearing apart.
my sister is 19 & she acts like she's 5.
she's so immature & unthankful. she
treats my parents like they're crap & they've
been amazing to her. it makes me so sad.
i also feel like my mom's miserable (not all the time
but sometimes), she's sad, you know? watching tv all by herself
& i just go to her & try to be there for her but that
doesn't seem to help her. & my dad's only
home at night. he comes home around 9 pm so
i don't see him so much
but he's great & he's good to my mom.
& idk i just feel like we're all always fighting & my
parents fight a lot too & this all makes me so
depressed. i cry a lot because of it. what should
i do? :/

btw, thanks a lot. seriously.

[diana bear]

I would suggest family councelling. i wouldn't suggest talking to them in private because it might just start another fight.

[iloveyoudude]

eeeey i'm back (:

and i'd just like to say the guy i have been talking about,
is now my bf. ahha. we're going to see a movie tomorrow with our classes and it's
supposed to be hella scary. i can't handle that stuff haha i'm the biggest wimp ever but you know.
so do you think it would freak him out if i grabbed his hand when things got scary? i don't want him to get freaked, he's not really that type but you never know. he put his around around me and said he was there for me today so i'm hoping it'll be ok if i get scared.

thoughts?
oh and i love your advicee (:

[diana bear]

he's your boyfriend! PDA is nessicary! go for it =]

[iloveyoudude]

ahha i'm so ignorant but what does PDA stand for?

[white demon]

i have a big problem here.
okay, so me and this guy used to date.
(well we never went out to the movies or anything) it was just nice to be around him you know?
i'd have such an amazing time just watching tv or on the trampoline (haha we're such tards!)
but i don't know what to feel
he was my only real boyfriend
but i was thinking the other night "would someone else like me like he did?"
because he always used to tell me he loved me.
and i guess i got caught up in the moment
because i had like 1 boyfriend after him (his name was sam) and he called me a **** so i dumped him.
but the thing is, my ex jack he is a really nice guy he got a load of bullcrap from everyone in his year cause they found out
BUT; last new years eve he was drinking and i thought he got pissed from the way he was talking but seems like he wasnt
so i dumped him and spent new years eve at my bffs house.
but then, i started to fall for my bff. something happened that was quite emotional (at this point it was 4am.) and my mum said we had to go home and i was like "no i wanna stay here!"
and my godfather walked in the garage and he said "she can stay here the night."
but in the end i had to go home
BUT IN THE MIDS OF IT ALL; what should i do with the boy situation?

[diana bear]

ahha i'm so ignorant but what does PDA stand for?
public displays of affection.


i have a big problem here.
okay, so me and this guy used to date.
(well we never went out to the movies or anything) it was just nice to be around him you know?
i'd have such an amazing time just watching tv or on the trampoline (haha we're such tards!)
but i don't know what to feel
he was my only real boyfriend
but i was thinking the other night "would someone else like me like he did?"
because he always used to tell me he loved me.
and i guess i got caught up in the moment
because i had like 1 boyfriend after him (his name was sam) and he called me a **** so i dumped him.
but the thing is, my ex jack he is a really nice guy he got a load of bullcrap from everyone in his year cause they found out
BUT; last new years eve he was drinking and i thought he got pissed from the way he was talking but seems like he wasnt
so i dumped him and spent new years eve at my bffs house.
but then, i started to fall for my bff. something happened that was quite emotional (at this point it was 4am.) and my mum said we had to go home and i was like "no i wanna stay here!"
and my godfather walked in the garage and he said "she can stay here the night."
but in the end i had to go home
BUT IN THE MIDS OF IT ALL; what should i do with the boy situation?
with your first boyfriend, you always want it to last forever.
you think you're in love.
it's happened to all of us, including me.
there is real love and "love".
and love is way overused. most of the world has only "love" in their lives.
boys are buttheads. wait a few years and they'll mature.
or date somone older than you. just let everything fall into place.

[iloveyoudude]

mkay thanks, diana.

'tis your name, right?

[white demon]

oh my gosh
your advice is amazing
i'll be back sooooon.

[diana bear]

yep, that be it.
and thank you =] i'll look forward to it.

[iloveyoudude]

that's what i thought.
not to be a creep but i have seen it written a few time in the
'show off your graphics thread' so i figured i should check before looking like an idiot. haha

[diana bear]

that's how i learn most people's names, lol.

[iloveyoudude]

haha samee deal.

oh and btw you're advice has worked every single time. my hand was kinda under his and he put his hand closer and i grabbed it and he smiled, moving closer to me and squeezing it when ever i looked away. it was amazing, so thank youu.

[diana bear]

awww! you're very welcome.

[iloveyoudude]

so yeah, your advice owns at life
so i will definitely recommend you to people on here i know and like i've said many times,
i shall be back! (:

[diana bear]

thank you very much!
i appreciate it.

[iloveyoudude]

haha guess who (:

well i've got a new problem. hah it all ties in with the rest but you know. okay so whenever i'm with my boyfriend my body heat skyrockets! i mean i'm literally burning up everytime i'm with him. hah is this normal? ahha he called me on it yesturday actually. cause he was holding my hand and he was like whoa your hands are so warm! and what not, his were freezing.

but anyway on to the real problem. my parents would rather me not date. hah my mom has told me several times and she seems really nervous when i talk about him, cause she knows i like him. she goes on to say she's not ready for this, blah blah blah. and i'd really rather not tell her cause i may just get grounded and i don't want to loose him. and i wasn't going to say no when he asked me out cause my mom wouldn't approve, i mean it's my happiness in the end right?

so as of right now, three days of us dating, my parents don't know. he wanted to go to the movies this weekened so i just said i had to babysit and he said he would be in town and come see me but i told him the whole thing about my parents. he's being really sweet and totally understands but i don't want to hurt him but sort of avoiding him on weekends 'cause i really do like him.

what the hell should i do? i'm so lost. his parents know and are fine with it so it's not an issue for him but i really don't want to push him away. help?

[diana bear]

yeah, that's normal. really cute, too.

for now, if he wants to go to the movies, make it a group date. add in some more female friends and maybe your parents will assume he's dating someone else.
eventually, they will come to terms that you are dating and let you be.

[iloveyoudude]

ahha thanks.

so just lay low for now?

[diana bear]

yeup, pretty much.

[iloveyoudude]

okayy. merci (:

[diana bear]

de rien.

anyone else?

[diana bear]

bump.

[diana bear]

OKAY SO.
lately i'm soo numb to everything.
it's so weird okay wait i've made a thread about
thiss so i'll just copy & paste.
okay soo.
i've tried explaining this to all of my friends
but no one really understands me.
lately (for about the past 4 months)
i haven't really been feeling anything.
it's sooo weird & complicated i don't
even know how to explain.
like whenever i'm sad, i know i'm sad and
i cry but i still don't feel pain.
ughh i know you don't get it.
okay for example, like physicallyy
i touch something and if it's soft
i know it's soft but i don't really FEEL it.
okay what im trying to say is that
i don't feel alive at all and days
are going by SUPER fast.
and it's starting to worry me..
advice?

...

yeah, & then lately i feel so isolated
from everything & everyone.
like everyday i just hang out with myself.
i mean, it's not like i don't have friends
or anything. i do hang out with them
but i still feel that way. like i come home
after school, eat, watch tv & then the day
ends. it's always that way, idasklsd.
& i always feel like crying. hfj.

okay, so i don't know if your problem has been solved or not, but i was looking on the To Write Love On Her Arms site today, and I think you should definetely look at this page (http://www.twloha.com/page.php?id=10), it makes you feel very un-alone.

[let it reindeer.]

ugh. okayy. so.
i REALLY REALLY REALLY like this boy.
so, i told him i liked him. and long story short
he said he liked me too. so we went on a date
and it was kind of awkward because we went to
the zoo but it wasn't bad... and afterwards he gave
me a hug and said he wanted to go on a second date.
amazing, right?
and he texts me everynight but here's the problem:
we see each other sometimes [we go to different schools,
like 10 mins away from each other] at school events, but
rarely. and when i'm texting him i can always be like, "i'm
really excited to see you tomorrow! :]" or whatever.. but then
when it comes to actually seeing him, i freeze up and can
barely talk and end up making a fool out of myself. but i do
talk to him, it's just kind of ...awkward. and i mean maybe it's
because we're around other people because it's never that
awkward when it's just me and him... but idk. it's weird. like i
feel like i'm making it look like i'm not that interested anymore,
or that i'm being stand-offish. it's hard to explain. this guy is like,
amazing though. hilarious and nice and gorgeous.. and i always
feel really.. unworthy? idk... aha. i always doubt that he actually
likes me but i know he does because he says so all the time, it's
just hard to believe. and anyway, i know he's still interested because
he texts me after all these awkward events but i'm worried that if i
keep it up he will lose interest because he's very outgoing and i am
too most of the time but when i'm around him i just get so... shy.
idk. haha. so i guess what i'm asking is, how do i make it not awkward
when we see each other in person? because i don't want to be like, all
over him. i'm not a big fan of PDA in front of friends or whatever. but
sometimes i feel like i'm ignoring him. so any advice would be great.
thank you :]

[diana bear]

one thing that stuck out to me is that lots of people find confidence in distance, as you seem to.
that's normal.
just tell him that you're a little quiet/nervous in front of him because you're afraid that you're going to mess up.
or, have a conversation with him via text/email about a certain topic and maybe carry on with that topic when you see each other.

[iloveyoudude]

I HAVE A MAJOR PROBLEM. :/

so you know the whole story about my bf? hah like i've been talking about this whole time.
well, he's sort of..crazy. and i mean it never used to bother me i'm just as out going as him, well so i thought. he is always using umm vulgar language.. i think. hah swearing and other inappropriate words. and i guess that's ok but seing as that's not really what i grew up around i find that a little awkward but it's fine. and he makes weird noises sometimes and like attacks his friends haha which is REALLY embarassing, at times like those i actually wish i wasn't dating him. and it's hard because he does this so frequently. he's never calm and i just find he is so hard to hang out with now because i do get so embarassed by him. and i guess i don't like him at all as much as i used and i feel bad cause its only been like two weeks.
but oh, it gets worse. my guy friend is like thee cutest guy ever. i have a class with him and we are always partners, well me him and my bff. so we're technically a trio.(:
and i kinda...sorta have feelings for this friend and miss my ex bf a little too. so once again i feel horrible about this! cause i don't really like my bf that much but i like these two other guys. i just always seem to pick the wrong guy! my bf always is with me (kinda follows me) and i need space! but i can't really say anything because he doesn't really have any other friends besides me and my friends.

heelp! i feel as though my life is falling apart slowly!.

[diana bear]

just tell him that.
tell him it embarasses you that he does stuff like that in public.
tell him you don't want him following you.
and tell him that you're not intrested anymore.
you appear to have a problem with telling people what you're thinking.

[iloveyoudude]

yes. yes i do. hah.
it's hard because i really am this crazy outgoing person, just like him. but when it comes to personal things like relationships and such i tend to shy away and just not say a word, i'm quite afraid of change. well to an extent. us going from friends to dating, i wasn't scared. but now, now i'm scared. i still hold on to those self esteem issues i had in the past and telling people what i'm thinking is a major insecurity for me, especially boys. i mean my friend i've known for about 5-6 years i told her all this stuff, she's the only one that knows. not even my bff knows. so it's easier for me to talk about it to people who i've known and trusted for so long but to people i've just met in the past two years, i'm still scared they'll turn around and hate me.

[diana bear]

in my world, you can tell if someone's fake or not within the first ten minutes of meeting them.
if you feel that they are fake, don't trust them.
but if they're not, then do. or at least, have small trials with smaller secrets.
like "i still sleep with my stuffed unicorn (i actually do, haha)."

[you found me.]

alright, well, i rarely need advice.
but this is one of those times i really need it.
so here we go:

i currently like this guy. and he is honestly one of the sweetest and funniest people i know. it's like he always finds ways to make me laugh, always ways to make me smile, always ways to do tons of things. but i can't tell if he likes me or not. cause it really honestly seems like he does. for example, i went to a friend's party and dan[the guy] was there. dan got up and sat on the floor next to me when we were watching a movie and was a fair amount of space away from me. i realized he was scooting closer and closer to me and it was to the point that our legs were touching. and he wouldn't move. i was eventually like, "geeze dan! do you like me or something? you keep scooting closer!" [just to see what he would do] and he moves over to my friend dante and said he liked him and moved further away from me. but RIGHT AWAY, he moves back to where he was and our legs were touching the whole rest of the movie and he kept trying to lean in. so enough of my story. haha. well anyways, and he always looks over at me in english class to the point it's a stare and it's just.......gahh! so cute!
but here's my problem: i don't want to start falling for him and really like him if nothing is going to come out of it in the long run. because i'm really really starting to like him and i've been rejected so much it's not even funny. i just wish that if he likes me, he would tell me. because i just wish that he would say it! i hate when guys like a girl and never tell them, and then the girl likes him back. do you know what i mean? and on another note, my friend kyra thought that dan liked her last year cause he kept flirting and it turned out he didn't. i had dante ask dan if he liked me and apparently dan said no. but it really seems like he does.
i don't know whether to keep liking him and flirt or stop, because he doesn't like me.

anyways, you are my freaaking hero if you read all of that.
advice is GREATLY APPRECIATED.♥

[iloveyoudude]

haha i sleep with my stuffed raccoon(:
and thanks once again diana! i swear, you save my life!

[diana bear]

oh, no problem =]


and to .takethelead_:
i guess i'm your hero then, lol =]
this is my theroy;
convince yourself he doesn't like you.
and if he truly does like you, he'll come to you.
i wouldn't say keep "flirting".. continue being friendly.

[you found me.]

ahahahaha. :]
annie's the name by the way.
me and dan have been friends for a few years and are starting to get closer now. we haven't been as good of friends as we are now.
so what are you saying i should do?
ahahaha.
i'm kinda lost.x]

[diana bear]

i stand by what i said.
just play it cool. don't make a move right now.
if he comes to you and tells you he likes you too, then tell him.
but if he doesn't, just get over him, lol.

[you found me.]

thanks.
i appreciate it. :]

[diana bear]

bump.

[conspiracyagainstme_]

can you handle middle school drama, pointless rants are a given.

[efronxislove]

hey. so i need a bit of help. lol.

basically, my boyfriend broke up with me like a week ago, and i'm still having a hard time getting over him. the main reasons being that i hate change and i'm still confused about why he broke up with me exactly. like he said he needed to get his life in order, but seriously, we're in high school. it'd be different if we were older, but yeah whatever. so today i saw his mom at the store, and she was like, oh my god hun, i'm so sorry. he's so stupid. he'll come to his senses soon, because he still has feelings for you. and that was the part that scared me most, because i've started feeling a little bit better, but i will admit i still like him. alot. and even though i don't want to and i just want to get over it and be okay, i can't. and it's kind of weird, her saying that he still has feelings for me, because he doesn't even look at me in school. and it's so awkward and i hate it.

so sorry that was so long. basically, i'm just confused. and i don't know what to do. should i inniate the talking? should i confront him about still having feelings for me? or should i just let it go? thanks for reading.

[diana bear]

can you handle middle school drama, pointless rants are a given.
i'm in middle school, so definetely.


hey. so i need a bit of help. lol.

basically, my boyfriend broke up with me like a week ago, and i'm still having a hard time getting over him. the main reasons being that i hate change and i'm still confused about why he broke up with me exactly. like he said he needed to get his life in order, but seriously, we're in high school. it'd be different if we were older, but yeah whatever. so today i saw his mom at the store, and she was like, oh my god hun, i'm so sorry. he's so stupid. he'll come to his senses soon, because he still has feelings for you. and that was the part that scared me most, because i've started feeling a little bit better, but i will admit i still like him. alot. and even though i don't want to and i just want to get over it and be okay, i can't. and it's kind of weird, her saying that he still has feelings for me, because he doesn't even look at me in school. and it's so awkward and i hate it.

so sorry that was so long. basically, i'm just confused. and i don't know what to do. should i inniate the talking? should i confront him about still having feelings for me? or should i just let it go? thanks for reading.
with him not looking at you in hallways, that's typical ex-boyfriend stuff. in this case, he can't really bare to look at you and see what he's done to you.

you should talk to him, just as a friend, and ask him what's up. have no intentions of getting back together with him, even if you really do like him this much. just be friendly, and if he wants to get back together, then you will.

[conspiracyagainstme_]

Alright!
So, there's this guy named Andrew (don't you love how all the sappy songs have the name drew in it like 'teardrops on my guitar'?) and he's best friends with all my guys friends, for some reason we never really met officialy, when i hung out with my guy friends he was there but we never talked. Well this year we started, he's in three of my classes and by some sort of twisted fate our seats are next to each other in every class. so he has a girlfriend, one of the prettiest, most popular girls in school. she's going to break up with him (i heard) but still she shows his standards are high. he's everything i want in a guy, and in the begining of the year we were writing partners so he told me something none of his friends know. he's a good guy, he doesn't do drugs or anything like that, isn't SUPER pervy and enjoys going to church. we have these weird convos where i think he's flirting with me cause he'll joke around and every time i look up he's looking at me. i've also noticed that when i look BAD (like i go to school in sweats with my hair up) he'll talk to me more then when i look good. it's odd. anyway i don't know what to do, can i come back tomorrow to rant?

[diana bear]

Alright!
So, there's this guy named Andrew (don't you love how all the sappy songs have the name drew in it like 'teardrops on my guitar'?) and he's best friends with all my guys friends, for some reason we never really met officialy, when i hung out with my guy friends he was there but we never talked. Well this year we started, he's in three of my classes and by some sort of twisted fate our seats are next to each other in every class. so he has a girlfriend, one of the prettiest, most popular girls in school. she's going to break up with him (i heard) but still she shows his standards are high. he's everything i want in a guy, and in the begining of the year we were writing partners so he told me something none of his friends know. he's a good guy, he doesn't do drugs or anything like that, isn't SUPER pervy and enjoys going to church. we have these weird convos where i think he's flirting with me cause he'll joke around and every time i look up he's looking at me. i've also noticed that when i look BAD (like i go to school in sweats with my hair up) he'll talk to me more then when i look good. it's odd. anyway i don't know what to do, can i come back tomorrow to rant?
aww, i love the name Andrew! that's the name of the guy in my sig (such a cutie, in real life too. met him once.)

anyways, are you friends with his girlfriend? or friend of a friend? because you could get information that way.

but sometimes the guy doesn't even know he's flirting with you and he's just talking to you. for example, i have this guy friend, Keilan, who usually says 'i love you' once a day to me and makes growling noises. of course, this is just immature middle school boy behavior.

you can always come back if you need advice, but without any further scoop, this is all i can give you.

[broooke.]

hii i'm really confused and i kind of need some guidance?

my friend had a party in september and these guys came,
and i ended up kissing one of them and then we carried on speaking on msn etc.
then we saw each other in town and stuff and i really like him.
then my other friend had a party and other stuff happened blahblah again.
and then he got a gf and i tried to convince myself i didn't care but it's really hurting me inside.
my friends know i like him but they think i just thought of him as somebody to kiss at parties.
and whenever he talks to me i just don't want him to because it hurts me alot.

what should i do?
because i don't want to completely erase him from my life because he became a good friend.
but :/
thank you if you reply (:

[diana bear]

well, your situation is quite simple.
you are friends that have kissed.
no big deal.
just pretend like it never happened.
i slow danced with my guy friend once, and it didn't mean anything to either of us.
i just think you're taking it a little too seriously.

[diana bear]

hey everyone;
check out the front page for a tip on something.

[broooke.]

okayy thank you :}
you're right, i do tend to over-analyze so thank youu.

[diana bear]

no problem, it's what i'm here for.

[SkyHighStandard]

Yo.

So, I have a little crush problem.
Well, there's this guy that lives down my road and rides my bus. He's sixteen, I'm fourteen...so, he's in high school while I'm in middle school. My dad doesn't like him tho =] haha. But we've gotten sorta close within the last few months.
Everyone says he likes me, even his brother. Because he flirts with me on the bus everyday. And honestly, I thought he did too. Because...well, we sorta got this whole thing going where we look at eachother with these looks that say we like eachother but we never say anything about it.
And also, because I just said a guy was hot and he got mad and started threatening to beat the guy up!! So, me and this chick on our bus[his ex] started talking about the guy and I kept on saying he was hot. So, let's call the guy...Dylan. Dylan started talking about some chick that he used to talk to and was like "and she was sooo fine!" And then he just gave me this look...so, I shut up. haha.
But then Thursday afternoon on the bus he was turned around talking to me and his ex leaned back on him. So, he just looked at me and I crossed my arms, leaned back, and looked away. So, he pushed her off. Then Friday afternoon she was laying on him the whole time and they were talking.
So, I was like....well, I'm just gonna quit talking to him...I'm tired of all these games. But he makes it so hard! Cause he talks to me all the time. So, I was like well...maybe I'm just making it a bigger deal than it really is....so, I'll just keep on talking to him. But then today...he told me he had a girlfriend. The only reason that came up though was cause I said I was gonna ask some chick out on the bus for him and he was like "....I have a girlfriend." Then he gave me this look...I couldn't really read it though. He's one of those people that don't show emotions a whole lot. So, he's hard to read. Gr.
It's so confusing and I'm tired of it. And trust me, I've thought about telling him I like him...but if he doesn't like me like that...I don't wanna make things awkward. I don't wanna ruin the relationship we already have. So does he like me or doesn't he? Is him telling me he has a girlfriend his way of telling me to back off? Was I just imagining all the looks he gave me?

[diana bear]

you weren't imagining anything; he did like you.
but that's just the thing - he probably doesn't now.
but hey, i mean, that's life - it screws you over sometimes.
he could change his mind again and want you.
but for now, keep him as a friend, because he might really like your company and be hurt if you leave just because he's not going into a relationship with you.
just roll with things and let them play out, but most importantly, DON'T GET JEALOUS!

[SkyHighStandard]

Ahh...you're brutally honest.
I needed that. So thanks =]
And I'll not try not to. haha.

[diana bear]

yeah, that is one of the only good AND bad qualities i have.
i'm so honest people don't like me for it.
but i'm glad you're taking it positively =D

[WhisperedLies]

Boy problem...
Okay, so this guy at school is so cute. I like him a lot. He rides my bus, he sits all by himself and never talks to anyone. So... When he got off the bus yesterday, he got in a car with a girl. I have never even seen him talk to one freaking girl, and now all of a sudden he gets in a car with one? I doesnt seem like he likes me, at all. He barely even glances at me. But I cant help how much I like him. Should I leave him alone or just say hey or something?

[diana bear]

okay, here comes more brutal honesty;
have you ever talked to this boy? do you know anything about him?
or do you just think he's cute?
because otherwise, you shouldn't think anything of it.
it's hardly a crush if you just think he's cute.

let it go - he has his life and you have yours.

[WhisperedLies]

You are honest :)
But thanks, I needed it. You rock!

[diana bear]

haha, thank you =D

[WhisperedLies]

Me again!
My parents are getting divorced and I feel like crying all the stinkin time and it hurts. I have to move and my father isnt even trying to fight for custody for my sisters and I. I am so upset. My sister feels like it's all her fault and I'm sick of being the strong one around here. Anyways I really need some help to get through this. Please help me!

[diana bear]

well, first of all, i'm sorry to hear that. a lot of my friends' parents are divorced and i feel very lucky that my parents are still together (my dad was part of a divorced family too).

now, it's natural for the children to blame themselves, but it's never their fault. they just want to believe that there is some logical reason other than that their parents don't love each other anymore, because that's just completely unplausable in their minds.

if your dad isn't trying to keep you around, then he's not worth having in your life. and i know that's hard to hear, he is your father, after all. it's just something you have to live with. but help your mother in every way possible and make sure you tell her every day that you love her and you appreciate what she's doing.

and it's okay to cry.

if you want someone to talk to, then you can email me (champagnesupernova_@hotmail.com) anytime.
and that goes to everyone.

[iloveyoudude]

heey, i know it's been a while but i am back again.
if you still remember me
:)

any ways i have a problem, as usual. haha weell. this goes back a bit.
but my friend set me up with the guy i told you about a long time ago and like forced
him to ask me out.. so then things didn't work out after a couple weeks and we broke up.
now that friend is treating me like dirt. and there's this other guy we shall call him..jack.
so he's in one of my classes and friends with my ex-boyfriend/one of my best friends. hah and i talk to him all the time he's a total cutie, funny and she thinks i like him. which i kind of do, but here comes the problem. she hates my bff cause she broke up with jack and broke his heart. and this girl is like bff with jack. so she's doing everything in her power to make my friend's life miserable. and now she's trying to get me to admit i like him and stuff just to piss my friend off. not to mention this girl hangs out with jack more than she does her own bf and she is ignoring her bf who's getting really upset. oh and she talks about jack all the time when i'm around to make me 'jealous'. so wtf do i do? cause this has been g oing on for a month or two now and i hate being a part of her little games and she cheats on her bf basically; kissing others, lunchdates, hugging guys, flirting 24/7. i mean the two have been going out for over a year! she should know better and it's not her place to 'fix' jack's broken heart by hurting my friend.

if you read that, seriously.
THANK YOU.

[TAS.]

okay.
so i have this friend.
and just under a week ago he told me that he liked me.
all my friends had already guessed so it wasnt much of a suprise.
i felt bad though cause i dont like him like that.
plus i had just broken up with a guy that i'd liked for 2 years.
and he was texting me, saying really nice, flattering things.
and i was just starting to consider that maybe i liked him
then this morning i get a text from my bff saying he'd just asked out my other bf.
i dont get it!
why would he make this huge deal that he was 'falling in love with me' as he put it.
then go and ask out my best friend!
im so confused.
was he just using me as an excuse so no one found out he like her instead?
help!
:' (

[diana bear]

weeeellll..
this could be any of the following options:
a) he thought that you didn't like him, so he moved on.
b) he's trying to get closer to you

so ask him.
not in a mean way, just be like "hey, what's up? i'm a little confused." and carry on the conversation from there.

[iloveyoudude]

diana did you see my post on the last page?
i don't mean to be a pain or anything, just wondering.
(:

[diana bear]

ahhh, sorry, i didn't. i will now.

heey, i know it's been a while but i am back again.
if you still remember me
:)

any ways i have a problem, as usual. haha weell. this goes back a bit.
but my friend set me up with the guy i told you about a long time ago and like forced
him to ask me out.. so then things didn't work out after a couple weeks and we broke up.
now that friend is treating me like dirt. and there's this other guy we shall call him..jack.
so he's in one of my classes and friends with my ex-boyfriend/one of my best friends. hah and i talk to him all the time he's a total cutie, funny and she thinks i like him. which i kind of do, but here comes the problem. she hates my bff cause she broke up with jack and broke his heart. and this girl is like bff with jack. so she's doing everything in her power to make my friend's life miserable. and now she's trying to get me to admit i like him and stuff just to piss my friend off. not to mention this girl hangs out with jack more than she does her own bf and she is ignoring her bf who's getting really upset. oh and she talks about jack all the time when i'm around to make me 'jealous'. so wtf do i do? cause this has been g oing on for a month or two now and i hate being a part of her little games and she cheats on her bf basically; kissing others, lunchdates, hugging guys, flirting 24/7. i mean the two have been going out for over a year! she should know better and it's not her place to 'fix' jack's broken heart by hurting my friend.

if you read that, seriously.
THANK YOU.

ookay. that's quite a lot to handle.
first of all, talk to your flirtatious friend (friend? idk) and tell her what you think. she may stop, she may not. after all, it is her life and she can do what she wants, but make sure to tell her that she should put everything into consideration - especially everyone else's feelings and opinions.

second of all, you should talk to 'jack' and ask him what he thinks about this. meaning, your cheater friend and his opinion on her. he may like all of the attention.

and lastly, comfort your friend that is being tortured by this girl - because that's all she really needs. relationships - especially in middle/high school - usually don't last, and she shouldn't be made miserable for it. it's a fact of life. i have a friend that went out with a guy for almost two years (december 22 would've been their two-year anniversary). everyone thought they should just get married already, but just about a month ago, she broke up with him. it's just something people do.

[iloveyoudude]

it sure is alot to handlee.&i just found out that 'jack' and the 'flirt' have kissed on more than one occasion, like made out type thing. And the 'flirt's bf is 'jack's best friend so this is getting insanee. so yeah. It's nuts.

[diana bear]

wow. this is very The Young & The Restless.

[iloveyoudude]

haha yeah.
it sucks to be living in.

[diana bear]

it truly does.

[diana bear]

bump.

[diana bear]

bump.

still open for business, people.

[SkyHighStandard]

Okay...soo...same guy...still like him.
Well, Wednesday night at church him&my sis were writin notes&she asked him if he liked me. He was like "Yeah, I do. But I wanna see if someone else will go out with me."
It really hurt me&stuff. Cause I wanted him to like me more. But I decided that I was gonna stop likin him...cause I wasn't gonna come in 2nd...I deserve better than that.
It was goin okay...I didnt talk to him for a whole day. And trust me....that's a bigger accomplishment than you think. lol. I ignored all the sad looks and shrugged off all the attempts of talking to me or flirting. Not rudely, of course.
But then Friday....well, I just couldn't help it. lol. So, I talked to him&flirted and all that.
Me&him were hittin eachother&his brother was like "Stop flirting!! Rachel likes Dylann." So, I just looked at him weirdly. And he was like "Do you like Dylan?" I was like "...No." He glanced at Dylan and was like "Are you sure?" I was like "...yeah." And he bugged me about it a lil more but I just kept on tellin him that I didnt like him. I could see Dylan out of the corner of my eye leaning his head back against the window starin at me. Since it was out of the corner of my eye though...I couldn't really read his expression...And I didn't wanna straight up look at him cause it was already awkward for me. lol. And after that he didn't really talk to me that much...
My friend said that maybe he just wants to see if he can find someone more his age. I understand that....but at the same time I'm not fine with it, ya know? *sigh* So idk....Advice?

[diana bear]

just go with the flow right now.
this seems too complex for words.
don't complicate things further.