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[seventeen forever]

i'll ask for some advice =)

ok so i REALLY like this guy who i met this year(grade 9) and hes in my geography class. i used to site on the opposite side of the room but then i moved to the desk beside him so i could maybe see if he would notice me but it didnt work =( i've been sitting there for like 3 weeks now and i hate how he never notices me...
WHAT DO I DO!?
signed,
Aubra(zacisluvv)

i dont mind mentioning my name lol

[Bekah]

aubra, would you like me to post this now?
or on the actual newsletter?

[emmysaurus.]

dear dr bootle,
i have a problem. whenever someone tells me a guy likes me
& i don't like them back, i start being mean to them. I HAVE NO IDEA
WHY though. i know its kind of mean, but i can't help myself.
right now this guy thats totally OUT of my 'clique' likes me.
he's all letsgetdrunk&party type. & i'm more like letspartybutimnotgonnagetdrunk.
hahaha. & he doesnt know i know he likes me but yeah.
lately i find myself subconsciously be meaner to him & stuff.
i dont really know...

Love,
tough love.



p.s. i dont know if that name even fits in but ok hahaha you can just put
emily if you want :P

[Bekah]

(from a private message)

dear torn,

wow. if you had asked me this about three months ago, you would be describing my situation EXACTLY...well, pretty much. the only difference is that my school didn't have a dance.

if he's your good friend, and you feel pretty darn comfortable with talking about it with him, then i would. but if not, you might want to work your way around it.

for instance, the way i kind of figured it out is that we were driving together and we were talking about past relationships. and there was an openly gay friend we both knew pretty well. and so my friend (i'll call him gary), started talking about this older person that he went out with once. and i finally convinced him to tell me after MUCH persuasion. he said a name of a guy, the guy we knew was gay. he never came out and actually told me, but after that, it all kind of fell into place.

and since he had a lot of girl friends, he felt comfortable enough with one of them and he told her. i'm really really good friends with her and i just asked her about it and she told me. so you might want to become friends with his friends, but not just to "use" them. but it might help.

you can always suggest going to the dance as best friends. gary, linda (the friend that confirmed my suspicions), and i are always doing things now. i would definitely suggest going as friends, maybe as a group thing. of course, invite him yourself, since it is a sadie dance. but then tell him that you'd like to go with a group. that would limit the awkwardness of the situation in my opinion.

i hoped that helped. if you have any more questions, you know where to find me
( :

- doc.

[Bekah]

dear aubra,

ooh. these cases are always tough, especially depending on the personality of the guy. is he outgoing and funny? or is he shy and a little timid? either way, i think he'll start to notice you in no time.

the key to this is being subtle. you definitely don't want to go overboard, or else he will just think you've got some problems. i would start off by just saying 'hey' to him. since you sit next to him, you might as well flash a smile every once and a while (hey, it rhymed!). be sure to greet the other students sitting around you. if you don't, he might think you're singling him out, which you are, but you don't want him to know that
( :

you can always go for the "damsel in distress" approach. which means, ask him a simple question that he can get right. since you're in geometry, you can ask him something like 'what did our teacher say the capital of nigeria was again?' or something along those lines. then, he'll have to answer you. but be sure not to get in trouble in your class. if your teacher is strict, then i'd definitely lay-off of this suggestion. but if you don't think you'll get in trouble, it's worth a shot.

and finding something common to talk about always works. if he plays basketball for you school and his team won a big game over the weekend, tell him! "congrats on the win last week" would work. he'd notice that you know he is on the basketball team and even care enough to know that they won. double yayy!

hope it works. but if not, boys are stupid. i've learned that over my years of school. if nothing works, there's always the next boy.

i wish you the best of luck!

- doc.

[Bekah]

dear tough love (haha, anything works),

i think you have a universal problem. i find that i do that myself- last week for example. but anyways, let's go!

i think girls do that because it's hard for them to act "normal" around a guy once they find out that that guy is even remotely interested in them. so if at all possible, i would definitely try to just pretend like it was a dream or that you don't even know that this 'party guy' likes you. that would definitely be the best bet in this situation.

and it's totally responsible for you to be the 'let's party but i'm not gonna get drunk' type. a lot of people are the opposite. so mad props for that
( :

but other than trying to act normal, there's really nothing you can do. it's kind of like when your nose is all stopped up, and you breathe really heavily out of your nose (or worse, when there's that shrill noise that you can't really hear except when it's really quiet)- you know it's there, but there's really nothing you can do about it, except try and breathe through your mouth.

okay, bad analogy, but i think you get the picture.
haha.
hope it helped. if not, you know where to find me

- doc.

[Bekah]

(from a private message)

dear long love,

have you ever seen princess diaries or read the series? mia and michael, perfect example.

haha, but not everything is a novel. so on to the real life-

you can do either of your options. it just depends on what you want. i know it'd be easier for you just to like cody and not say anything. but nothing can come from nothing, meaning that if you don't say anything, it's highly doubtful that anything might come in the form of a relationship. and it's especially hard since it's your brothers best friend.

i know when i had a crush on a boy that i liked for about two and a half years, i decided one day that nothing would ever happen. i forced myself to not like him, as weird as that sounds. and to this day, even though i think he likes me now, i don't like him. i just don't. it might be hard, but it might be the best thing in this circumstance. you might want to look out for some other guy to crush on so that you can "get on with your life".

aaah. this is one of the harder ones in my opinion. because in one way or another, the outcome will most likely not be what you want. if you keep your feelings to yourself, you lose. but if you tell cody and he blows you off, you lose, again.

i'm extremely sorry, long love.
i know everything will work out for the best. it always does.

- doc.

[Zac'sEyesMakeMeMelt]

awesome idea!!!!
i will definaly ask u for some advice later:)

[Bekah]

sounds good to me, liss.

[angelaa.]

kool
good idea

[hillaryann™]

damn bekah your a beast at advice.

[Bekah]

thanks, hill.
i appreciate it
( :

[Bekah]

(from a private message)

dear justfriend,

i think what you're feeling is completely normal. girls like to be complimented, it's only natural. but you need to make sure you don't automatically start to like a guy after a compliment. it can sometimes lead to awkward moments for the both of you. some guys do it to be nice, while some do it to be mean (like, they don't mean their compliment), and yes, sometimes they do it because they're trying to let you know that they do, in fact, like you.

it's hard to interpret what each compliment means. see how many times the guys compliments you (and about what). if a guy compliments you once, then he's probably being nice. but if he does it often, then be on the lookout for some possible guy action. but on the other hand, if more than one guy compliments you in the same day about something you're wearing (a shirt for example), they might not be complimenting you and the way you look in your shirt- they might be thinking about what's in your shirt instead. guys are weird like that.

it always comes in handy to have a good friend on your side to do some "detective" work. see if your bud can talk to the boy himself, or the boy's friends, to see if there's anything brewing in the chemistry department.

and if you do start to like a boy after he compliments you, stay with that one guy. don't change with every person who tells you that you look nice or your hair looks awesome. you might come off looking like a "player" in some ways. and if a guy doesn't like you back, don't be upset. guys will come and go and you'll find the perfect one someday.

i've got a friend who every time i see him, says "hey beautiful". then he always texts me and says "just a daily reminder to let you know that you are the most beautiful girl in the world". i cherish those notes, but i don't let them get to me...well, too much. if you've got good enough guy friends to comment you like that, then keep them close. but just realize that it's friendship, not a boy/girlfriend relationship starting.

it's just something you've got to "train yourself" to do. hope it helped!

- doc.

[emmysaurus.]

i neeeed advice again ahahhaa.


dear dr bootle,

okay. so there's this guy that i DO like. & i haven't known him for all that
long but yeah. anyways, he's the starter quarterback for football so obviosuly
a lot of people are gonna be like WOW I LOVE YOU. but im not that big into
school sports, mainly football cause i don't understand it so when i met him i
actually had no idea that he was the quarterback. anyways, we became friends
& stuff. but now all of a sudden, he begins like ignorning me. if he's talking to
one of his friends & then i talk to his friend, he stares for a second or two &
then turns around quickly. but just last week whenever he'd see me he'd be like EMILYYY. & say hi.
we were working out in the weight rm. today at school, and you know that feeling
when you know the person knows you're there? well, we made eye contact a
few times but he never said anything. so ya, idk what that really means
and what i should do about it. should i just straight up ask him whats wrong?


love,
coldshoulder.




p.s. these names are kinda fun to make up hahahaha

[Bekah]

okay. so there's this guy that i DO like. & i haven't known him for all that
long but yeah. anyways, he's the starter quarterback for football so obviosuly
a lot of people are gonna be like WOW I LOVE YOU. but im not that big into
school sports, mainly football cause i don't understand it so when i met him i
actually had no idea that he was the quarterback. anyways, we became friends
& stuff. but now all of a sudden, he begins like ignorning me. if he's talking to
one of his friends & then i talk to his friend, he stares for a second or two &
then turns around quickly. but just last week whenever he'd see me he'd be like EMILYYY. & say hi.
we were working out in the weight rm. today at school, and you know that feeling
when you know the person knows you're there? well, we made eye contact a
few times but he never said anything. so ya, idk what that really means
and what i should do about it. should i just straight up ask him whats wrong?


dear coldshoulder,

grr. boys are such a pain at times...seriously. anyways, he's acting stupid. i don't know why he'd start ignoring you, except maybe he's doing the exact same thing you and i do to guys when we think they are starting you like us (not saying you're bad, but it's from the post a few replies up).

i would personally say something next time i saw him. if it was in the halls or just a passing-by situation, i'd say something like "hey taylor" [if his name is taylor of course. i wouldn't call him taylor if his real name is mark- that'd be just weird]. it's simple and casual, just like "old times" between you two.

but if it's like in a closer environment, i'd just ask him what's up. don't get aggressive or anything, but this works: "hey taylor [again, use his name], how have you been? we haven't really talked lately" or "hey taylor, is everything okay? you don't seem to want to talk to me" or something like that.

don't accuse him of ignoring you, but just make sure everything is okay between you two. it will show a lot of maturity if you start the conversation. so good idea! you're on the right track
( :

and i'm glad you like making up the names.
haha...they're fun
( :

- doc.

[Bekah]

(from a private message)

dear bamboozled,

this is seriously one of the hardest ones out there because it all depends on the guy. like i always say, if you have a friend that could figure it out, it'd be way useful. see if your friend could either talk to john or one of his friends to figure it out.

if you're comfortable enough, see if you can get his number so you can call him about a biology assignment or something. that'd be a good way to get his digits and get an 'a' in the class
( :

and if you're SUPER comfortable with him, ask him out! ask him if he would like to get a soda after school one day. if he says yes, then SCORE! but if no, don't let it get you down. and you cannot act different around him at school the next day. still talk and have a good time with him, so he won't know that you were hurt when things didn't go the way you wanted.

aaah, sorry if that advice sucked.
sometimes they're just times that no advice can help. it's up to john now!

- doc.

[strawberryfields.]

You rock Bekah! Thanks so much!

[Bekah]

anytime, sarah my love.

[WeChange..Wait]

bootle, this is an amazing idea!!! i love it...lol

[strawberryfields.]

Okay, let me throw another thing into the mix. I'm new to the town, the school, I just moved here at the beginning of the summer. I don't know, I like him a lot, we have a lot in common. But I don't know if he is dating anyone, he might be dating this girl I know. I need to figure out. =)

[Bekah]

bootle, this is an amazing idea!!! i love it...lol


thanks!
( :

[Bekah]

Okay, let me throw another thing into the mix. I'm new to the town, the school, I just moved here at the beginning of the summer. I don't know, I like him a lot, we have a lot in common. But I don't know if he is dating anyone, he might be dating this girl I know. I need to figure out. =)

hm..
you could casually ask him "how's your girlfriend doing? what's her name again?"

and if he says no and he doesn't have a girlfriend, you can respond "oh. someone told me you had a girlfriend." and play it off.

or he'll answer and tell you how she's doing and what her name is.

that way, you can play it safe either way and be sneaky at the same time
( :

[cristinajosie.]

okie doc [haha] i need advice =)

kk well when i started high school i was like kinds looking forward to probably getting a boyfriend. well when i started gr.9 i had my eyes on a few of the gr.10 boys. so as a couple of weeeks passed by we always kept looking at eachotehr and it was like wiff 5 different guys. we woud look at eachother and then we wouldnt, then we would and we wouldnt. it was kinda weird. so like, these boys are friends with my cousin and they've been at my cousins house while i was there. its always awkward. but the thing is, i've never talked to them or like done anything with them haha. so im guessing your not going to tell me to try and talk to one of them, unless its a cool idea, but i dont know. so now a year later im in gr. 10 now and i still look at a couple of them, but im scared that they think im like wierd and i always think they talk bad about me, iunno i guess im just so self-concious about myself lol. but now this guy i really like is in gr. 11 and he looks at me a couple of time in the hall between classes. but i dont know what to do. help?

and one last thing. i need help talking to boys. like i have boys in my classes that i think are cute, and sometime i just want to be friends with them bc i don't have alot of boy friends, and sometime when they come up to me, or sometime i have them in my group for a project, i get really shy. soo i need your help haha.


-deperatechik.

[strawberryfields.]

Genius! You are genius!
What sucks is that we just got on break today, but I can't wait to go back, as hopefully, a healthier and fitter Sarah. LOL. I am so excited! Thanks again!

[☺keesh]

OH I NEED ADVICE.

Dear,uh,DOCTOR.
So I like this kid Lucas. But he has a girlfriend. He's like a huge flirtt though.
His friend Guihlerme likes me. But..ew. I just would never.
Then there's this guy Matt who I've had major history with and we're sort of on the rocks and it's just like okayyy, what's happening - between us. Matt is kinda pathological though. He lies about everything in the worlddd.
So I guess my question is -- WHAT DO YOU DO IF THE GUY YOU LIKE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Anddd... WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT MATT?

love, uhmmm. INGLEWOOD.

[Bekah]

dear deperatechik,

haha, did you mean 'desperate'? no biggie if you did. just wondering
( :

don't be shy! guys like outgoing girls [or at least the ones i know], so don't be afraid to say anything. if you pass one in the hall, flash him your pearly whites and say "hey!". they'll think 'wow, she's outgoing.' and they'll say 'hey' back! if for some reason they're acting like dumb-heads and don't respond, move on- they're not worth talking to.

and don't worry if anyone is talking about you. just be yourself. if someone says anything behind your back, they're jealous and too much of a wimp to tell it to your face. you know you're better than that, so don't talk about other people. be the stronger person!

but seriously, just drop a little 'hey' here and there to different guys (and girls) around school. they'll notice how friendly you are and they'll like it. you can't start a relationship with someone if you've never talked to them, silly
( :

when you find you're being shy, just start talking about something, whether it be the weather, a new video game that you heard about, the tv show that came on last night, just anything! but i wouldn't suggest talking about barbies and g.i. joes. those topics usually don't go well with teenagers. but i guarantee that you know what you can talk about
( :

hope it helps!

- doc.

[Bekah]

Dear,uh,DOCTOR.
So I like this kid Lucas. But he has a girlfriend. He's like a huge flirtt though.
His friend Guihlerme likes me. But..ew. I just would never.
Then there's this guy Matt who I've had major history with and we're sort of on the rocks and it's just like okayyy, what's happening - between us. Matt is kinda pathological though. He lies about everything in the worlddd.
So I guess my question is -- WHAT DO YOU DO IF THE GUY YOU LIKE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Anddd... WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT MATT?


dear inglewood,

boy with girlfriend? not fun. but if you've ever head of my personal friends, the pussycat dolls and their song "don't cha", you know what to do
( :

so lucas what he's missing out on. don't be a wh.ore though. just be you. and if he doesn't dump his girlfriend and go out with you, then he's not worth your time.

and matt....hm, what about matt? if you could possibly see yourself being in a relationship with matt, i would talk to him about his lying problem. does he know that he's a chronic liar? he might not (even though i highly doubt it). tell him that you're not even going to think about him if he doesn't stop lying (otherwise called an ultimatum). if he stops, then yayy for you. if not, boo on him.

hope it helped!

- doc.

[☺keesh]

gosh, you're good.

[Bekah]

thanks, kyra!

i appreciate it!

[jordanmichelle.]

ok. dont laugh. this is probably a really stupid question. lmao.

dear doc. bootle.

my [moms] car is a piece of CRAP. no AC, doors hardly close, and geuss what? the radio doesnt work. also, on my school bus, my driver is an old man who doesnt know how to turn the radio on. my only source of music is....disney channel. yup yup. so, whenever im like, at the school dances, i only know like 2 of the songs and look like a total retard. so yeah. lmfao.

so i geuss my Q is....how do I listen to music more often? idk, haha.

sincerely

musicaly declined.

[Bekah]

dear musically declined,

nothing is out of league, so, this is totally fun
( :

first off, sorry about your mom's car. that's how my first car was...except worse. MUCH worse. i won't even tell you about it because it's a health hazzard. thank goodness for new cars

anyways, even though mtv and vh1 aren't always family-friendly, you might want to either flip the channel or check them out online. they usually talk about hot, new music. ask a friend to burn you a cd of some of the good songs that are played pretty much 24/7 on the radio.

and i have a name of a website that is extremely useful. just find a few titles of songs that are popular and visit http://www.blogmusik.net/ . it's like an online ipod, where you can search for songs and then add them to your playlist. you're not promised to find all of those songs, but some will most likely be on there.

and if you have enough money (and you really want to), you can always buy a cheap, portable radio. those come in handy
( :

hope it helps!


- dr.

[jordanmichelle.]

yay! haha
that website is AWESOME.
thank youuuuu dr.

[Bekah]

anytime!

[seventeen forever]

dear aubra,

ooh. these cases are always tough, especially depending on the personality of the guy. is he outgoing and funny? or is he shy and a little timid? either way, i think he'll start to notice you in no time.

the key to this is being subtle. you definitely don't want to go overboard, or else he will just think you've got some problems. i would start off by just saying 'hey' to him. since you sit next to him, you might as well flash a smile every once and a while (hey, it rhymed!). be sure to greet the other students sitting around you. if you don't, he might think you're singling him out, which you are, but you don't want him to know that
( :

you can always go for the "damsel in distress" approach. which means, ask him a simple question that he can get right. since you're in geometry, you can ask him something like 'what did our teacher say the capital of nigeria was again?' or something along those lines. then, he'll have to answer you. but be sure not to get in trouble in your class. if your teacher is strict, then i'd definitely lay-off of this suggestion. but if you don't think you'll get in trouble, it's worth a shot.

and finding something common to talk about always works. if he plays basketball for you school and his team won a big game over the weekend, tell him! "congrats on the win last week" would work. he'd notice that you know he is on the basketball team and even care enough to know that they won. double yayy!

hope it works. but if not, boys are stupid. i've learned that over my years of school. if nothing works, there's always the next boy.

i wish you the best of luck!

- doc.

thanks soo much!! i really think this advice will work and i cant wait till two weeks after the break when i can test it our and put the plan in action
oh and are you gonna be putting all the advice you recieve in the news article

[Bekah]

thanks soo much!! i really think this advice will work and i cant wait till two weeks after the break when i can test it our and put the plan in action
oh and are you gonna be putting all the advice you recieve in the news article

i might put a few of these posts that i've already answered.
but if i get new ones before the newsletter or if someone wants me to answer there post in the newsletter, i will.

[Bekah]

bump!

[Bekah]

bump

[cristinajosie.]

dear deperatechik,

haha, did you mean 'desperate'? no biggie if you did. just wondering
( :

don't be shy! guys like outgoing girls [or at least the ones i know], so don't be afraid to say anything. if you pass one in the hall, flash him your pearly whites and say "hey!". they'll think 'wow, she's outgoing.' and they'll say 'hey' back! if for some reason they're acting like dumb-heads and don't respond, move on- they're not worth talking to.

and don't worry if anyone is talking about you. just be yourself. if someone says anything behind your back, they're jealous and too much of a wimp to tell it to your face. you know you're better than that, so don't talk about other people. be the stronger person!

but seriously, just drop a little 'hey' here and there to different guys (and girls) around school. they'll notice how friendly you are and they'll like it. you can't start a relationship with someone if you've never talked to them, silly
( :

when you find you're being shy, just start talking about something, whether it be the weather, a new video game that you heard about, the tv show that came on last night, just anything! but i wouldn't suggest talking about barbies and g.i. joes. those topics usually don't go well with teenagers. but i guarantee that you know what you can talk about
( :

hope it helps!

- doc.

thank you soo much bekah =)
i'll keep your advice in mind =)

[Bekah]

thanks, cris..

and i really like your set, by the way
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[efronjonas.]

Guys don't hardly talk to me THAT much. I have a few guy friends but none that I have dating potential with. I really want tofind someone who is good for me. I do sort of like a few guys but I am afraid to talk to them because it seems as if when I talk to some people they just blow me off or look at me funny. And I reallly don't know what to say...

[sofixftw]

ooo, bekah= genious

ok i got one. ok, i have a cateract in my left eye *which means im blond)
ahh here's a pic. http://i121.photobucket.com/albums/o222/sofanator123/picofosofi1.jpg
and like nobody ever makes fun of it, so i never had to worry, right?
(some people think its pretty, make me more sofi haha)

so this one kid freakin was like "why is ur eye smaller"? and i was soo close to punching him, it was like "cuz it is". and normally i walk away, but this really got to me. blah asdlkghadglajkhdglkajhgalg stupid kids =P


peed-off sofii.

[Bekah]

i will get to you two tomorrow
it's been a looooong day

( :

[Bekah]

dear abbie,

pretty much every girl feels that way, so don't feel left out. but you can seriously talk about anything that the other guy might possibly be interested in, or something that you two have in common- school, basketball, etc. if you're nervous, it will show and the guy will think something's up. so try your best not to be nervous or anything. just act like you two have been friends forever and it's no big deal to talk to them. be confident.

and don't worry about what they might do. and if for some reason they're immature and they do do something, just shrug it off. you're better than them and you know it
( :

don't rush to find a boyfriend or anything. your time will come soon enough. i've learned that boyfriends aren't all that they're hyped up to be. and i don't think i've had one for two years now. i'm definitely not dying without one. just take your time

- dr.

[Bekah]

dear peed-off sofi,

by the way, i love your name. "peed-off"...only you, darling.
( :

and let me get this straight- you've got a cateract in your eye. therefore, you're blonde?
haha. i know, you're blind. really? you're blind in your left eye? i had no idea. i'm extremely sorry!

anyway, your eyes are so intensely gorgeous. and everyone knows that. don't worry about what some twerp says. kids say the darnest things sometimes. and even though it seems like you've already done this, you've got to accept your cateract.

for instance, i've got a "bald spot" from where i was pushed into my tv when i was four and no hair grows there anymore. the worst part is, is that it's in my widow's peak and it's SO noticeable. but when everyone asks me what's wrong, i make up some elaborate story then tell them i'm just joking, and then tell them the true story. and i make it part of me, so that way, it's a part of me. yes, i still get poked fun at, but i'm just like "well, at least i've got a cool story to go behind it" or something like that. and then it's over...until the next time i'm asked.

i'm not exactly sure what you needed help with, but i hope i helped
( :

- dr. bootle

[the REAL mandaa.]

bekah, this is a good idea.
if i need any advice i will know who to ask
=]

[Bekah]

thanks, manda!

[sofixftw]

dear peed-off sofi,

by the way, i love your name. "peed-off"...only you, darling.
( :

and let me get this straight- you've got a cateract in your eye. therefore, you're blonde?
haha. i know, you're blind. really? you're blind in your left eye? i had no idea. i'm extremely sorry!

anyway, your eyes are so intensely gorgeous. and everyone knows that. don't worry about what some twerp says. kids say the darnest things sometimes. and even though it seems like you've already done this, you've got to accept your cateract.

for instance, i've got a "bald spot" from where i was pushed into my tv when i was four and no hair grows there anymore. the worst part is, is that it's in my widow's peak and it's SO noticeable. but when everyone asks me what's wrong, i make up some elaborate story then tell them i'm just joking, and then tell them the true story. and i make it part of me, so that way, it's a part of me. yes, i still get poked fun at, but i'm just like "well, at least i've got a cool story to go behind it" or something like that. and then it's over...until the next time i'm asked.

i'm not exactly sure what you needed help with, but i hope i helped
( :

- dr. bootle


haha bekah, shut UP.
i noticed that, but was too lazy to fix it. =P
thanks. ily =]

[Bekah]

ily sofi!

[Bekah]

dear amanda,

people can be so cruel at times. i'm extremely sorry. why are people like that?

the only thing you can really do is accept it. make it your own thing, like sofi. if someone asks you why you're shy, reply with "i'm allowed to be shy, aren't i?" or something like that. but i'd recommend you not being as shy. you should let your impediment be you so you won't be ashamed of it. you'll look as confident as you feel when you don't let it get to you.

sure, you can try to avoid words with 'r', but a lot of words have it. have you gone to a speech specialist? they might be able to help if you want to fix it. but if not, just let it be a part of you. don't let it cover up your own personality. be outgoing around your family and friends as well as people you don't know as well.

have a happy new year
( :

- dr. bootle.

[Bekah]

bump!

[Bekah]

any sugggestions for some articles that i can use for the chronicle?

[Mike_Fxckin luvs nicole]

i a hve a advice cloumn...well i wanted 2 start 1 lol

[Bekah]

haha, sweet.

[cristinajosie.]

kk well i have sumthen =D

kk well at school, my friend is like super annoying. she copies everything i do
and she makes it so evident that she is jealous of me. she lies to me, and is always trying
to act like someone else in front of me. i was thinking of dropping her as a friend, becasue she has
just gotten worse. what do you think?

-friendannoyed. =)

[Bekah]

dear friendannoyed,

duuuuude. you should totally confront her. because i know exactly what she'll do. she either 1) "nuh uh...whatever...i don't know what you're talking about"; 2) cry her eyes out and run out of the room; or 3) call you a liar and become even worse.

now, if it's either number 1 or 2, then you're in luck. but if it's number 3....man, i just hope it's not number three.









...

kidding.
don't do that.

well, actually i would tell you that you notice she's been acting differently. don't accuse her, because that will just make her mad. but just let her know nicely that you don't like what she's becoming. and if that means that you two can't be friends anymore, then so be it.

that way, she can either change and everything will be good...or you can "inadvertently" drop her as a friend.

see? it works
muahaha.

wow. i'm really not evil. i swear.

hope it helps!

- dr.

[cristinajosie.]

thnxx bekah =)

[Bekah]

anytime for my cris-ssssy.

[Bekah]

bump!

[strawberryfields.]

Bekah, thank you again for the wonderful advice! You are so good at this!

[Bekah]

aw, sarah.
you make me smile
( :

[Bekah]

bump!

[Bekah]

-deleted-

[iloveyoutoodude.]

dr. doc its been awhile...

ok well... its [drew] again... and he called me the other night and we talked, but then he said he had to go call [jane]... and he ALWAYS flirts with me... what do i do cause its starting to get on my nerves, and him and another guy, [devan] are all i can think about and i miss [drw] alot...haha yes i know

-confused in band

[Bekah]

i'll get to you shortly, jordyn, my dear!
i'm on confused girlie right now.

[Bekah]

(from a pm)

dear confused girlie,

sorry that everything is awkward between you and colin. but i'm proud that you put forth the effor that you actually asked him out. tons of girls would die before doing something like that. you're like...super girl or something.
( :

and then mad props for getting him a gift to try and be un-awkward. you get a hundred cool points for that.
( : x3

well, if he said he liked your gift, that shows that he doesn't think any different of you after you asked him out. but how did he say it? was he really nice when he answered, or was he a little hesitant. if he was hesitant, he might have only said it to be nice, which i sincerely hope it wasn't.

but for the way to be un-awkward, you can't really do anything except act as normal as possible. act like yourself and pretend the whole asking out/giving him a present happened years ago. but if it continues to be awkward with him, i would take him aside and just ask him or tell him that you want everything to be normal. ask him how he feels about the incident. just be completely honest with him and be yourself. those are the keys to having a great communicating friendship, well, actually any kind of relationship.

let me know how it goes!

- doctor

[Bekah]

dear confused in band,

at least drew is calling you. that's, like, a really good sign. it shows that he cares enough to call you, even if he's still with jane. so, yayy!!

how well do you know devan? if you know him just as well as you know drew, you might want to "know devan better", if you know what i mean
( :

and i know you probably won't like it, buttt....here's what i would do:
next time you talk to drew, ask him what's going on between him and jane and you and him. he's totally sending you mixed messages. tell him that you've got your eye on some other guy, but you need to know if anything's going to happen with you guys [you and drew].

he'll either say that he likes you [yayy] or that he'll stay with jane [booo. but yayy, because you can head towards devan].

boys = crazy randomness. booooo

- dr.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha thanks doc...im sure ill be asking soon...haha

[emmysaurus.]

please go to my seperate thread bekahhh.
i forgot about this.

+ i want a lot of opinions.

[Bekah]

haha thanks doc...im sure ill be asking soon...haha

haha
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please go to my seperate thread bekahhh.
i forgot about this.

+ i want a lot of opinions.


what thread?

[Bekah]

rach,
i am so sorry that i haven't done yours yet. i will, in like, just a sec.

[Bekah]

dear rach,

i have been that way before. i really wasn't outgoing, but i was always super outgoing around other people. i didn't like the way i acted around other people because it was so fake. but one day, i was talking with an older guy that was one of my best friends, and he was driving me somewhere and we just got on some subject and i told him how i really was. i told him that i really wasn't an outgoing person and the i didn't like to be around a whole lot of people, even though i never dared show it in public.

find one of your friends that you feel the most comfortable with and let him/her know. tell them how you really are and not what you pretend to be around others. you will feel a billion times better when you let it out of your chest. and you might even find out that you truely are an outgoing, fun-to-be-around girl [or at least, that's the case for me. i love being around people now and i swear, i don't know a stranger].

but if you still don't feel comfortable talking about it, maybe try to be less outgoing in public and try to act like yourself or become more outgoing in your private life.

hope it helps!

- doctor bootle.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

ok doc i talked to him at the mall and like he said he liked me and all but [jane] would like kill him if he broke up with her for me

pxssed in scheels

[Bekah]

dear pxssed,

well, score for you! yayy.

but that sucks.

well, since they are probably going to stay together, you can move on to devin [that is his name, right?]

[iloveyoutoodude.]

thanks ya thats his [name]

[3raven19]

check your pm

[Bekah]

^^ i did. but i need more info than that
( :

[Bekah]

bump

[iloveyoutoodude.]

ok so its not about boys this time

my older brother is a total badd *** a nd like he told me he smokes. and i made the mistake of telling my best freind whose dad is c aop. and she wants me to tell but i dotn wanna cause [kevin] will kill me but i feel guilty and nervous. guilty: because i kwno and i havent told my parents... nerous: because what if she tells her dad?

smoke on the roof

[Bekah]

dear smoke on the roof,

wow. sounds like a "darned if you do, darned if you don't" situation. and that's never cool.

well, we all know smoking is bad. it can kill you and secondhand smoke is even worse than firsthand smoke. so technically, you're putting yourself in harms way by having kevin smoke.

my advice is to try and convince him to quit. that'd be the best for everyone. and you can tell him that you won't tell your parents and it can be a thing just between you two. your parents don't have to know, as long as he stops. it can be like a bribery thing- if he keeps smoking, you tell your parents. i bet he'll stop. but every sibling needs to have their own secrets. it makes them grow closer with a special bond.

and just tell your friend that she CANNOT say a word. tell her that you trusted her enough that she wouldn't say anything. just beg her. if you two are friends like i think you are, then you have nothing to worry about.

i hope your brother makes the right decision.

- doc.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

thanks doc

[Bekah]

happy to help!
( :

[Bekah]

bump!

[Bekah]

another bump!

[sibling rivalry]

i'll bump it this time

[Bekah]

dear confuzzled,

wow. that is one big love triangle...more octagon, but oh well. i think it would be best to talk to eddie and let him know how you feel. it will be hard to do, but i would just tell him you need to tell him privately. be completely honest. tell him that you have feelings for him and you just had to let him know. tell him that you know that he likes erin and you want them to be happy together [because if you're friends with them, you want what's best for them, even if it means that they're together] or just happy doing whatever they decide on doing with their relationship.

you might want to tell erin, too. tell her that you know about her and eddie, but that you couldn't keep your feeling inside.

you might want to tell alex to do the same.

you never know what might happen if everyone is honest with each other. but i bet you all will feel better having let everything out. you probably will all be better friends.

and i know you might get what you want in the end, but i promise you'll feel better. and even though you might not not feel better as soon as everything happens, but it will get better.

you can always keep your feeling inside and just hope that it will get better, if you don't feel like telling

i'm extremely sorry, confuzzled. i hope everything works out.


- doc.

[Bekah]

i'll bump it this time

thanks, victoria!

[sibling rivalry]

Bekah - thank you soooooooooo much!! and I probably will, but i'm not sure.. well, i will DEFINATELY recommend you!! thanks again!

[Bekah]

Bekah - thank you soooooooooo much!! and I probably will, but i'm not sure.. well, i will DEFINATELY recommend you!! thanks again!


aw, thanks!
i appreciate it
( :

[sibling rivalry]

no, really...thank you...nice avatar btw

[Bekah]

haha. thanks.
martha made it.
she's freaking amazing.

[tastethis.]

dear dr. bootle

Ok so I've started up this whole enviornmentalist persona and I'm trying to tell everybody wants happening with the world and our envionment, but no one seems to be taking me seriously. And that's the way it ALWAYS is. Whenever I'm talking about something serious people laugh at me. I tend to have a fun, outgoing, joking personality, but there are times when I want to be serious and no one will ever take me serious not even my best friend. The most annoying thing is when I'm being serious usually I know exactly what I'm talking about but people think I'm stupid and don't listen, and then the exact thing happens, that I told them was gonna happen. How do I get people to take me seriously when I wanna be serious?

-molly

[Bekah]

dear molly,

you might want to start with your closest friends. tell them that this is something you're passionate about. they should support you instead of laughing and not believing you. it kind of has that 'high school musical' theme going on. if you want to be an environment-saver (sorry, i don't know anything else to call it, haha), you go for it! you can do whatever you want to do.

but as for everyone else taking you seriously, when they start to think you're stupid, tell them a very interesting fact. for example, every year americans throw away 24 million tons of grass and leaves. leaves account for about 75% of our solid waste alone. or over 100 pesticide ingredients lead to birth defects, cancer, and gene mutations. ask them a question, like 'did you know every ton of recycled office paper can save over 380 gallons of oil?', or 'how long do you think diapers take to decompose?...it happens to take over 500 years for the 1% of the u.s. landfill space which is full of disposable diapers'. then, your friends or the people you're telling will think that you know your environmental facts.

if you need a site to look up some facts, just let me know. i've got plenty of them on my bookmarks.

and i'm glad that someone under the age of 25 [which i'm guessing you are] cares about our environment. most teens and young adults think that nothing can harm the earth. but things can and it can also harm our health. thank you!


- dr. bootle

[tastethis.]

dear molly,

you might want to start with your closest friends. tell them that this is something you're passionate about. they should support you instead of laughing and not believing you. it kind of has that 'high school musical' theme going on. if you want to be an environment-saver (sorry, i don't know anything else to call it, haha), you go for it! you can do whatever you want to do.

but as for everyone else taking you seriously, when they start to think you're stupid, tell them a very interesting fact. for example, every year americans throw away 24 million tons of grass and leaves. leaves account for about 75% of our solid waste alone. or over 100 pesticide ingredients lead to birth defects, cancer, and gene mutations. ask them a question, like 'did you know every ton of recycled office paper can save over 380 gallons of oil?', or 'how long do you think diapers take to decompose?...it happens to take over 500 years for the 1% of the u.s. landfill space which is full of disposable diapers'. then, your friends or the people you're telling will think that you know your environmental facts.

if you need a site to look up some facts, just let me know. i've got plenty of them on my bookmarks.

and i'm glad that someone under the age of 25 [which i'm guessing you are] cares about our environment. most teens and young adults think that nothing can harm the earth. but things can and it can also harm our health. thank you!


- dr. bootle

thanks for the advice! yeah I'm under the age of 25 I'm 16 well 17 very soon. I'll try that and I'll see what happens! I already have millions of environmental sites but I would love to see the one's you talking about.

[Bekah]

sure, let me get them:

http://www.ecocycle.org/tidbits/index.cfm

http://www.green-networld.com/facts/index.html

http://www.environment-agency.gov.uk/yourenv/eff/

http://library.thinkquest.org/11353/facts.htm


and i'm sure you can try google for more!

[tastethis.]

thanks so much!

[LittleMissSmiley]

thanks

[_thesearethedays.]

dear dr bootle,

There's this guy, that I seriously have fallen in love with. I have written like so many love notes for him, told him how I felt, Tryed to ask him out, it all hasnt worked. I dont understand anything anymore. I mean, I understand that he may not feel the same way about me, but.. How do I keep my mind off the person I love so much?

[Bekah]

okay, so i've got claire, then a pm i received, then sam, then another pm.

so i'm coming!

[Bekah]

dear claire,

if you're even remotely interested in the classes, i would totally do them. even if your cousin doesn't take the class with you, it will help you meet other people and maybe even do you better. i mean, if your cousin is with you, you might not reach your full potential because maybe you might be a little self-conscious with him in there or you might not want to do as well as him, since he was the one who really wanted to do it in the first place.

but if you think it might not be as much fun without your cousin, then wait another year. but he's not garenteed to have an open schedule next year either. either way, you've got to figure out if you want to take it this year, or next year. i'd recommend taking that class [but it doesn't matter which year]. acting classes bring out your imagination and confidence.

it's all up to you in the end. but i hope you have a great time if you decide to go ahead and take the acting class
( :

-doctor.

[Bekah]

dear helpless,

you need to do what you think is right. my personal belief is that you need to be friends with the third girl and don't exclude her with your other two friends. i'm sorry that she's not mature and a little odd, but she might think you're odd, too. so i'd start doing a few things with your left-out friend at first. work your way up to being best friends again.

and if your other current best friends don't like that idea, tell them that you're not going to be mean to the other girl. stick up for her, and your friends will too.


- doc.

[LittleMissSmiley]

Thank you so much!

[charlottenzac123]

[B]dear doc[B]

alright. so I have a pretty reasonable problem.

so basically i go to this camp in the summer. really special. so my bff from there had this haloween party at haloween time [[duh.]] and so like, i went. && her AMAZINGLY GORGEOUS guy friend, we'll say his name issssss [I]joe[I]. So he comes in wearing his [costume] which is a "pimp" and hes got this jacket showing of his EIGHT PACK. yes eight pack.

well of course, im like standing there with my mouth hanging open. I mean, this guy is obviously out of my league. I get SOME guys at school, but its not like im excactly the type guys spill over. So I went over to my friend and continued to mingle && stufff, but [I]joe[I] came over. so he's like heeeyy, I don't think we've met. So there I was, talking to this amazingly gorgeous guy. telling him my name, where im from, how i know janet [[ my friend who's throwing the party]]] and so like yeah. im pretty much having the time of my life.

& then things start getting fun, dancing and stuff. && he's like hay wanna go outside? andim like yaa sure, its getting a little stuffy in here, huh? so we go outside and we're like talking and stuff, and then he holds my hand and starts like playing with it and stuff, and im like okay. so thennnnn we hook up, yes make out and stuff. && THEN it starts raining. kissing in the rain. i've always wanted to do that :D

so anyways we keep hooking up and stuff all night long. && then the next day. of course, because he lives in the town over, "we cant go out." i dont htink ive ever been so dissapointed.

so anyways we've hugn out a few times since then, and always end up hooking up, && since ive gotten to know him i've seen hes a sweet, sensitive guy. AND gorgeous.

are we talking about prince charming? yes.
but seriously, idk what to do.
becuase i hate just seeing him and flirting, and hoooking up, and then going home and being just friends. the whole frenifets thing doesnt work for me. im WAAAYYY to sensitive.

so what do I do? tell him how I feel? [[letting you know thatd be VERY VERY tricky]] or should i just, like stop hooking up and stuff, even though im secretly hugely crushing on himm

love,
alittlemorethanfriends :D

[Bekah]

Thank you so much! It helped me make up my mind. I am going to go ahead and take the classes. Once again thank you :)


no problem!

glad to help!

[Bekah]

dear finally cracked,

wow. i'm extremely sorry to hear that. i had no idea. and while i'll try to be more of a listener than a true advice-giver, i can't garentee that i won't try to help [it's just what i do. you can ask my friends...i can't help it]

but whatever i say, you must not follow through with your thoughts, if you know what i mean. stay strong! show everyone else that you're better than whatever they think. when you think someone is calling you fat, don't listen to them. just watch what you eat and if you get a chance, excersize a little. if people are nagging you about your grades, study a little bit more [and/or ask your teacher for some extra help or something] and show them that you are just as smart as you know you are. rise above whatever comes your way.

and it's really good that you're getting your feelings out. never keep that kind of stuff inside. it can only do you mental harm. i'm extremely honored that you shared that with me, truely, i am. and i'm always here if you want to talk about it.
( :

have a happy day!


- dr. bootle

[Bekah]

dear dr bootle,

There's this guy, that I seriously have fallen in love with. I have written like so many love notes for him, told him how I felt, Tryed to ask him out, it all hasnt worked. I dont understand anything anymore. I mean, I understand that he may not feel the same way about me, but.. How do I keep my mind off the person I love so much?


dear sam,

sorry about this boy. what's his problem? any guy would be freaking lucky to be with my darling sam
( :

but it's always good to find another guy or obsession to occupy your thoughts. i would recommend zac efron and/or zefron.
( :

but you can go for any guy or hobby that you might have. hang out with close family or friends. watch a really good movie. do anything that you enjoy doing. it will keep your mind off of the boy. and thinking that the boy is a maniac loser helps sometimes!

it's hard not to think of a certain thing that you really like and want, but i'm sure you can do it!


-doctor

[Bekah]

dear alittlemore,

oooooh, congrats, darling. so many girls would kill to be in your shoes. so lucky you!
( :

but i know how tough this may be. you shouldn't be treated as a toy. and i beg to differ with this "joe". you guys can't "go out" because he lives in the next town over. that's a load of bull. has he ever heard of long distance relationship? i know they are sometimes hard, but i know plenty of people with successful long distance relationships.

but if he still is against that, i would recommend not seeing him as often. the more you see him, the harder it will be. maybe limit your visits to once a month or so. get interested in another guy if things start to get a little rocky. but don't go looking if there might possibly be something between you and joe.

and even though it's hard, talking to joe might be the best solution. if you talk to him, tell him that you don't like this "only hooking up" business. it's either all or nothing, which is hard i understand, but you can't keep being tossed around. your feelings matter, too!

good luck!

- dr. bootle

[_Solemn.Hour]

I got a problem for ya!

Ok so I am 15, and I don't where any make-up ( don't need it thats why)
I mean I wear some blush here and there but no eye make-up. My mom had lately
really been trying to get me to wear it, she bought me the eye liner and mascara,
eye shadow the whole enchillada! and I really DO want to wear it but it's just that
i'm not really a girl girl kinda person, and I don't wanna wear only because of my dad
and ever since I was little I was called "Daddy's little girl" and I know I have to grow up sometime, but i just am kinda thinking about my dads feelings and how he may feel.
What should I do, you give such great advice! Thanks :)

♥/Always K.

[Bekah]

dear k,

that is so sweet. the whole 'daddy's little girl' thing. but i wouldn't worry about your dad. i know how special that bond is, but he knows you're growing up. you can still be daddy's little girl and wear make-up. just because you use some cosmetics doesn't mean that your dad doesn't think you're not his girl anymore.

besides, if your mom is the one encouraging you to wear all of that stuff, i'm sure she's talked to him about it. i wear make-up and i still climb in my dad's lap and watch tv. i'm still his little girl and always will be
( :

but if you feel uncomfortable with the make-up, tell your mom that you appreciate her getting you all of that stuff, but you just don't want to wear it right now. i bet she'll understand.

- doc.

[_Solemn.Hour]

^ Thanks so much Bekah!
that helped a lot! ♥♥♥

[Bekah]

anytime, k!

[Bekah]

( :

[JESUSica.walks]

i Need Advice On How I Can Drown A Fish..





Ty. =]

[Bekah]

hahaha.

um, you can drown a fish...but i forget how to.
it was on some national geographic thing.
haha.
you've stumped me. congrats, jess!

( :

[JESUSica.walks]

yesss.
i just tought the doc a lessson
=]

[Bekah]

blah.
i hate you.

























kidding.
i love me some jess

[JESUSica.walks]

YOU BETTER BE JOKING.




















i love me some doc.

[Bekah]

haha. suh-weet

[sibling rivalry]

cover it's gills so it can't breathe, or just clorinate the water...
or you can do wut my sis and i did when we were little (ACCIDENTLY!)
-chase it around the fishbowl many times to give it a heartattack
-cover the top of the fishbowl totally (so there's no air)
-take it outta the water
-put a REALLY strong filter in a small bowl (they get sucked up to the filter)

[as you can see, we've won MANY fish from fairs, but almost none survive..except the heart attack - that was a beta fish)

heehee..i've had WAY too many encounters will the death of fishies...heehee :grin:

[Bekah]

HAHAHAHA
that's awful.
but terribly funny
( :

[doodle-sama]

Dear Dr. Bootle
There is this boy at school who likes me. At first I didnt like him but now I do after I saw how sweet he is. I dont know how to tell him or if I should. I am afraid i might of lost my moment.
Hopeless Chic ( doodle-sama)

[sibling rivalry]

hahahahaha, LoL, bekah..

[xxdisenchantedxx]

Dear Dr. Bootle,

okay, here's the thing. I just joined the forum yesterday, so I'm new. and i feel like i fit in, but the thing is: my parents don't want me to be in a chatroom or forum. If they find out, and believe me, they have their ways, i'll never get my computer back. EVER!!

should i quit? or should i hide it????

keeping secrets (disenchanted)

[Bekah]

dear hopeless chic,

just flirt with the boy. if he likes you and you know he likes you, then you're in luck. or just go straight out and tell the boy you like him. then he can't help but ask you out because it's a mutual thing
( :


- bootle

[JESUSica.walks]

LYKE OMG DOC.
I NEED ADVICE..




SHOULD I SEND THIS GIRL
OVER THE INTERNET A BRACELET?!

im so confused..

lmao

sincinerly,
YOUR MOTHER.

[Bekah]

dear keeping secrets,

wow. you definitely don't want to run the risk of never having your computer anymore. that would not be good at all. you should talk to your parents about what you can do on the internet. if you're a younger member, i understand. parents are usually very private with their kids until you get a little bit older and are more responsible.

but don't come on here in secret. that puts a barrier between you and your parents, which leads to nothing but trouble.

talk to them and ask for more trust from them. maybe everything will work out, but maybe not. don't hide it from them- then you'll just be guilty.

so if i don't hear from you anymore, i'm sorry. but i promise, your parents are trying to protect you. you just need to understand it.


- dr.

[Bekah]

LYKE OMG DOC.
I NEED ADVICE..




SHOULD I SEND THIS GIRL
OVER THE INTERNET A BRACELET?!

im so confused..

lmao

sincinerly,
YOUR MOTHER.


oh, mother dearest.

haha, i've got to check with mi madre before i say anything to you anyways.
which i haven't done yet.
because i'm lazy.

but you may want to think about it
( :

[xxdisenchantedxx]

dear keeping secrets,

wow. you definitely don't want to run the risk of never having your computer anymore. that would not be good at all. you should talk to your parents about what you can do on the internet. if you're a younger member, i understand. parents are usually very private with their kids until you get a little bit older and are more responsible.

but don't come on here in secret. that puts a barrier between you and your parents, which leads to nothing but trouble.

talk to them and ask for more trust from them. maybe everything will work out, but maybe not. don't hide it from them- then you'll just be guilty.

so if i don't hear from you anymore, i'm sorry. but i promise, your parents are trying to protect you. you just need to understand it.


-dr.

Oh my god. you put my thoughts into words. I can't thank you enough. I'm 13, but they should have more trust in me. I'm an only child, so that always is why they protect me so much. I'm their one and only. You're absolutely right. It is just keeping secrets and I hate doing that to my mom & dad.

thank you sooooo much. u r a life saver. I have 1 question though. can I PM you???

[Bekah]

Oh my god. you put my thoughts into words. I can't thank you enough. I'm 13, but they should have more trust in me. I'm an only child, so that always is why they protect me so much. I'm their one and only. You're absolutely right. It is just keeping secrets and I hate doing that to my mom & dad.

thank you sooooo much. u r a life saver. I have 1 question though. can I PM you???

sure! pm me!

[JESUSica.walks]

oh, mother dearest.

haha, i've got to check with mi madre before i say anything to you anyways.
which i haven't done yet.
because i'm lazy.

but you may want to think about it
( :

i know she might stalk me
=o

[Bekah]

hahaah.
yep.
i'm a stalker
shhh! don't tell anyone
( :

[JESUSica.walks]

oh deat lordy.
STALKER DURING THE DAY
POLE DANCER DURING THE NIGHT.

=o

[Bekah]

LMAO

i love you.
you're my love.

[JESUSica.walks]

thats effing like
the best life everrr.


i wanna be like
SUPERHERO DURING THE DAY
STRIPPER DUING THE NIGHT..

aha ILY2<3

[Bekah]

we can be the super showgirls.
but i need to have some super-hero quality
( :

[Squinton]

Ehh...I have a problem. :\

Okay...There's this guy at my school I've liked him a couple of months, but I don't think he knows I exist. He's two grades above me, and a year and a half older. I almost said hi to him today, but whenever I'm around him, it's like my throat tightens and it's hard to breathe. What should I do? Thanks for your help. =)

From,
Kelsey

[Bekah]

dear kelsey,

next time, just hold your breath and say "hey". he can't help but notice you, unless he's a major jerk and just blow you off. but if he does that, then you shouldn't be liking him anyway- just move on to the next boy.

he'll most likely smile and nod his head in the way that guys do it or say 'hey' back. those are both positive responces. he'll definitely think that you're outgoing and confident, and guys totally like that [unless they're the 2% who aren't like that], but i highly doubt that he's one of those.

then, once you guys are used to just saying hey, maybe something more will happen

good luck
( :

- doc.

[_Solemn.Hour]

Hey Bekah I took your advice today!
and your were totally right, They he didn't even care
and I was treated the same and so on... Plus I felt better
that I just went ahead and gave it a try! because I didn't hurt neither
my mom or dad, plus I felt good about it too!
Thanks again! your the best ;)

[Bekah]

aw, thanks, k!
i really appreciate that.

[_Solemn.Hour]

^ Ha ha no Thank you! :)

[iloveyoutoodude.]

ok. so. heres the thing. im over [drew] and [devan] but now i think i have another crush. but. like. everyone at school hates him. like. hes really weird and all, but we mesh well. like really well. like apperently we flirt everyday in class cause like almost everyday someone asks me if were going out. and it bothers me. cause i think i like him but im not sure. and then theres another guy in my gym class that im pretty sure i like, but not totally sure if you know what i mean. and. like. his freinds and i just dont get along at all and all my freinds who have had b/fs are like 'if his freinds dont like you, it probably wont work' so. like. what do i do?

distracted in gym

[crazywhitegirl .]

i gotta pm u my problem
later kkayy bekah?

[sibling rivalry]

=)=)=)=) - OMGSH! i love your backyardigans avatar!!! haha it's so cute! Pablo rocks!!

[Bekah]

that's cool, dani.

[Bekah]

dear distracted,

hm...so no more drew and devan. okay. but now two more, let's call them josh and jake. josh will be the classmate and jake is the gym jock.

first off, don't listen to what other people say. it's what you think that matters most. so, if you want to go for josh, who might not be everyone's favorite guy, but he makes you feel special, then go for it. if jake the jock is always on your mind, who cares what hs friends think.

but you've got to figure out which guy you want to crush on. you can try to flirt with both to see which one would work out, but i'd suggest either one or the other. and you can switch back and forth if you want.

but as soon as you find one, let me know and we can go from there

- dr.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

dear distracted,

hm...so no more drew and devan. okay. but now two more, let's call them josh and jake. josh will be the classmate and jake is the gym jock.

first off, don't listen to what other people say. it's what you think that matters most. so, if you want to go for josh, who might not be everyone's favorite guy, but he makes you feel special, then go for it. if jake the jock is always on your mind, who cares what hs friends think.

but you've got to figure out which guy you want to crush on. you can try to flirt with both to see which one would work out, but i'd suggest either one or the other. and you can switch back and forth if you want.

but as soon as you find one, let me know and we can go from there

- dr.
thanks bekah.
this should be a fun desicion :?

[DESIMON]

This is a really good idea actually.

[Bekah]

thanks, desimon
( :

[Bekah]

thanks bekah.
this should be a fun desicion :?


haha, good luck!
i trust you'll make the right decision
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha, good luck!
i trust you'll make the right decision
( :
i hope to friggen god i did.
like today, [josh] was weird. and like. he said he had a HUGE crush ono this chick who i hate, but thats besides the purpous, but liike jake and i flirted...and i mean flirted alot. so. there. now what?

happy in gym

[Bekah]

dear happy,

congrats on picking a guy. and lucky for you that josh told you that.

so now..you just have to keep flirting. get him to notice you. since you're in gym with him, show him how awesome your legs look in your new shorts. bring chapstick with you and put it on in front of him- that will bring his attention to your lips, niiiiice move. [and of course, i just made up those situations, but you get the point]. just get him to notice you and flirt like crazy. hopefully, the boy will get the hints.

- doc.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

thanks. yea everyone,well the girls atleast, says that it seems that he likes me but i dont know. bleh sexy legs and jordyn are arch enemies...haha but yea i get the point

[sibling rivalry]

dear happy,

congrats on picking a guy. and lucky for you that josh told you that.

so now..you just have to keep flirting. get him to notice you. since you're in gym with him, show him how awesome your legs look in your new shorts. bring chapstick with you and put it on in front of him- that will bring his attention to your lips, niiiiice move. [and of course, i just made up those situations, but you get the point]. just get him to notice you and flirt like crazy. hopefully, the boy will get the hints.

- doc.

^^the way you worded it made me crack up...i dunno why....but it did...LoL, Bekah

[Bekah]

thanks. yea everyone,well the girls atleast, says that it seems that he likes me but i dont know. bleh sexy legs and jordyn are arch enemies...haha but yea i get the point

haha
( :


^^the way you worded it made me crack up...i dunno why....but it did...LoL, Bekah

haha. glad you liked it

[sibling rivalry]

Lol, of course i would! haha

[Bekah]

dear confused,

hm. i kind of had the same problem. i was a freshman and he was a senior and we actually did a lot of stuff together. it was funny, because although i knew he was a lot older than me and we probably would never be anything more than friends, i had a few of my girl friends tell me that they were almost sure he liked me. but then he started dating a friend of mine who was only a half a year older than me. i was, for some reason, really upset about that whole thing and i barely talked to the two for almost a year. that was a loong time ago and they're still together and happier than ever.

so what i'm trying to say is, i wouldn't give up just yet. but be careful because someone closer in age may be more mature [not saying that you aren't] and the guy might be more attracted to a person closer in age. you don't want to get too caught up in the boy that if he chooses someone older that you'll be crushed.

and how often have you heard of couples, or even parents, with different ages? it's very common, just not in the teen years. it's more common in college and after. so if an older guy doesn't work out for you just now, you've got plenty of other chances.

so yes, i would still keep flirting
( :


- doc.

[Bekah]

bump

[morning gloryy]

hm.

so i love this girl who keeps making theses great threads, like for example a family thrad, im kinnda part of it, & she kinnda 1 of my sexy beasts, so i was wondering if i can find out if she loves me 2.
shes a great gal.=]

-lovesthedr.

[Bekah]

hm.

so i love this girl who keeps making theses great threads, like for example a family thrad, im kinnda part of it, & she kinnda 1 of my sexy beasts, so i was wondering if i can find out if she loves me 2.
shes a great gal.=]

-lovesthedr.


dear lovesthedr,

who might this girl be? do i know her?

if so, i'll be glad to tell her for you.

but whoever it is, i'm sure she'd say something like
i.love.nicole.more.than.i.love.sleep.

and i happen to know that she really loves sleep
( :


- dr.

[morning gloryy]

hm yes u do noe this girl, ur vey close 2 her. i mean VERY.
lol i hope she think the same way ill leave it as that, cus if she loves me more than sleep im happy.
thank u doc, ur great

-solved.

[Bekah]

oh, solved,

i know i am a great doctor
because i'm cool like that
( :

- doc.

[lost in stereo.]

Dear Dr. Bootle,

There's this guy I like, and I'm not sure if he likes me or not. Sometimes it seems like hes flirting with me, and then other times he totally ignores me. I'm really confused, and I'm so fricken scared to talk to him about it, because thats just my style. Got any ideas?

-LoveConfused-

[Bekah]

dear loveconfused,

guys are weird like that. one moment they're acting like they like you, then the next they can hardly remember you exist. for that reason, they should be stoned [well, most of them, anyway].

well, if you're totally against talking to him, then you've just got to flirt back when it seems like he's flirting and ignore him when he tends to ignore you. play hard to get and hopefully that will help him figure out that he likes you.

but that's all you can kind of do without talking to him about it.

hope everything works out
( :


- dr. bootle

[lost in stereo.]

dear loveconfused,

guys are weird like that. one moment they're acting like they like you, then the next they can hardly remember you exist. for that reason, they should be stoned [well, most of them, anyway].

well, if you're totally against talking to him, then you've just got to flirt back when it seems like he's flirting and ignore him when he tends to ignore you. play hard to get and hopefully that will help him figure out that he likes you.

but that's all you can kind of do without talking to him about it.

hope everything works out
( :


- dr. bootle

Thanks! Good advice, as usual
I'll try it

[Bekah]

thanks!



bump

[iloveyoutoodude.]

ok. so. everything was going good until social studies this morning. and. i think im back at square one. and. idk who i like now.help.


-double love struck.

[Bekah]

ok. so. everything was going good until social studies this morning. and. i think im back at square one. and. idk who i like now.help.


-double love struck.

haha
dear double,

i can't help you with what boy you should like. that's for you to decide. i might could help if i knew you outside of the forum, but alas, i don't.

if you don't know who you like, you might just want to take a hiatus from boys for a while. it's really not a bad idea. boys will occupy a girl's mind all the time, so maybe if you took a break from them, you wouldn't necessarily have to worry about them.

besides, at times, guys suck
( :

- doc.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha
dear double,

i can't help you with what boy you should like. that's for you to decide. i might could help if i knew you outside of the forum, but alas, i don't.

if you don't know who you like, you might just want to take a hiatus from boys for a while. it's really not a bad idea. boys will occupy a girl's mind all the time, so maybe if you took a break from them, you wouldn't necessarily have to worry about them.

besides, at times, guys suck
( :

- doc.
haha. so true. but today i realized that i think about i think it was josh[the jock] more than jake. like ill be in math and like ill write in a heart *jordyn *****) like. so. yea...haha. but i think forgetting about them is prolly best for now, cause i have semestersa lllw eek :roll:

[Bekah]

well, if you decide that you think you like jake, then perhaps you could go for it.

but my best bet is that you just be friends and flirt a little, that way, he won't be on your mind 24/7 and then you can focus on school. because it is totally not cool to have a boyfriend, but because your grades slip a little, you can't go out with him. totally not fun at all, i'll tell you that
( :

it's all up to you.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

well, if you decide that you think you like jake, then perhaps you could go for it.

but my best bet is that you just be friends and flirt a little, that way, he won't be on your mind 24/7 and then you can focus on school. because it is totally not cool to have a boyfriend, but because your grades slip a little, you can't go out with him. totally not fun at all, i'll tell you that
( :

it's all up to you.
haha. yea. i think so. cause like my parents are already pizzed at me, cause sports like are my second religion, and like im about to be kicked out of some giant acedemic thing at school so.... idk tho. we flirt...aloooot.

[Bekah]

haha. don't get kicked out.
that = not good
haha.

and congrats on the flirting
that's my girl
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha. thanks. *bows*
yea but its too hard. with sports and boys and band and my daddy being gone all the time, its hard to maintain a B average. haha. but i really dont care if i get kicked out. ill be grouned. but idc...haha.

[designer_skyline.]

I NEED HELP!!! Ok, I like this guy and have done 4 ages and he knows, and has dun 4 ages and he's dating my friend right and he sits next to her in like every class so I can't talk 2 him without her listening unless we're in tutor, I just really wanna date him! and we share an obsession, (HARRY POTTER) but it doesn't seem enough..
Kimmi xx (HsMfAnAtIc - Newbie)

[sofixftw]

MY SAVIORR!
i need help. (:


mk, i think these two guys like me. why, you ask? cuz first of the first guy keeps flirting with me, and poking my shoulder when im being weird or when im just standing there. and tooo. the first guy wont let go of my hugs. haha. and the second guy is always nice to me. like he wont let ANYONE look through his phone, but i CAN. =O. haha. and like currently 4 guys like me that i know of. but i dont like ANY of them that way. so like what should i doo??

love
double-you-tee-eff.

[Bexsiiii]

ok what should I do I moved to austarlie 10 weeks ago this day I ws sitting in the car in the carpark waiting for my mum to take me to this party this car next to me this guy gets into his car and I check him out ofcours hes is kinda hot but dont think much of it cuz I am probbably never gonna see him againe anyway smal world the nest thing I know I go to this party and my friend introduces me to this guy I look up and say hi and I just stand there and think omg its him then he says he ur that girl from the carpark omg totaly embarresed then his girlfriend shows up :S and now ever since that party I keep looking out for him at the carpark and such cuz ma friend is on her holladay I cant really get in tough but I cant stop thinking about him and then his girlfriend is in the same class as me so if anything does happin she is gonna hate me and I dont wanna be seen as a **** for stealing her boyfriend u now what girls are like :P
xxxxx
rebecca

[Bekah]

hey guys.
i promise i'll get to these later. i have been so extremely busy this week and now i'm completely exhausted.

don't give up on me yet.

[sofixftw]

djdklhkadhgkahgkajhdglkajhgkhazkjdg
=]

[Bekah]

i'm going...
ily

[hillaryann™]

♥ .

[Bekah]

haha.
thank, hillary.


and i'm getting caught up on all of your pm's.
then i'll get jordyn, kimmi, sofi, and rebecca
( :

[Bekah]

haha. thanks. *bows*
yea but its too hard. with sports and boys and band and my daddy being gone all the time, its hard to maintain a B average. haha. but i really dont care if i get kicked out. ill be grouned. but idc...haha.


haha. i'm sure you'll keep your b average. i'm not worried. you're always on top of things
( :

[Bekah]

dear kimmi,

well, if your crush has a girlfriend, there's not much you can do...well, except steal him away. but if he's sitting next to his girlfriend in your classes, then it's even harder.

so you might need to ask him in your tutor class if you two could study together one night. and since his girlfriend isn't in that class [at least i don't think so], it would be easier. then, when you two are together, you can talk more and not necessarily talk just about harry potter. you could talk about your classes, homework, anything else like that. it doesn't always have to be hp related.

hope everything works out!

-dr.b

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha. i'm sure you'll keep your b average. i'm not worried. you're always on top of things
( :
haha. the semester ended, and im so nervous. and i think im over boys in general for a while. theyre all deuchbags...haha.

[Bekah]

dear double-you,

well, if you know for sure those guys like you, you should just tell them that you value your friendship, but that's it. you've got to make sure you say it in a way that makes them understand that it's just friendship. otherwise, they'll think you want more...egh.

and since you're, lyke, a huge flirt, you might want to STOP FLIRTING, you little flirt-er, you.
KiDDiNG.
ilovemysofi.

anyways, yeah. uh huh.
yep.

( :

[Bekah]

haha. the semester ended, and im so nervous. and i think im over boys in general for a while. theyre all deuchbags...haha.


lmao.
150% true
( :

[Bekah]

dear rebecca,

hm...not cool. well, all you pretty much can do is be nice to him [and his girlfriend, too]. he'll notice that you're friendly and he'll probably talk back to you and stuff. maybe if a relationship isn't possible with you two right now, at least you can be friends!

just be happy. try not to think of his girlfriend a lot. that will only make you jealous and maybe a little bit angry [sometimes it does. sometimes it doesn't].

sorry i can't be of more help!

- dr.b

[iloveyoutoodude.]

lmao.
150% true
( :
i know.
but theyre like little puppies. theyre so cute...wel. some of them.

[efronjonas.]

Dear Dr. Bootle,
The homecoming dance at my high school is coming up on Friday. I am really nervous. I'm a freshman and this is only the second dance I have ever been to. I like a guy named Ray at school and I'm terrified to slow dance. I've never been asked before and I would be so scared if he asked me! What should I do?

[Bekah]

i know.
but theyre like little puppies. theyre so cute...wel. some of them.

hahahaa

[Bekah]

Dear Dr. Bootle,
The homecoming dance at my high school is coming up on Friday. I am really nervous. I'm a freshman and this is only the second dance I have ever been to. I like a guy named Ray at school and I'm terrified to slow dance. I've never been asked before and I would be so scared if he asked me! What should I do?

don't worry about it! i'm sure everything will work out. if ray asks you, smile, say yes and tell him thanks. then, that's all you have to even think about...until friday
( :

on friday, if you and ray do go together, you might want to tell him up front that you're not a big dancer [like, you don't really like to dance]. he'll porbably get the picture, and that way, if you're nervous about slow dancing, he'll know it's because you don't really like to dance. but if a fast song and you feel like busting a move, then tell him that you just like the fast-paced songs. he'll understand about the slow-dancing thing.

and if you don't get asked, it's no big deal! get a group of your girl friends and go with them. you'll be sure to have fun when you're around your friends!

if you feel like it, you might want to ask ray to the dance. you can be like "hey, ray...are you going to the dance on friday? want to go with me?" or something. it doesn't have to be nerve-wracking, but just casual. i'm sure things will work out
( :

- dr.b

[ZacGirl&hearts]

Dear Dr.bootle
i need advice!!!

I am afrade i may have an eating disorder but it is linked with somthing else too and i cant controle it.. and i stick it in the back of my head like its not their i dont know waht to do.. its mostly linked to my non exestint self confadence and i know that solwly iam being destoried by my non-exestint selfasteeme. its all thats ever on my mind. iam never truley happy. ive had this for almost 4-years now but only geting seriouse for the past 2 it almost seems iam puting my grief into this but thats the only thing i thing triggerd it please help
sincerley,
Alone and anerixic

[Bekah]

dear alone and anorexic,

eating disorders are serious. if you think you have one, like anorexia, you NEED to get help asap. check out this image:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anorexia_clip.gif


anorexia can even lead to death. so this is serious and you need to tell a parent or a trusted adult.

it seems like you need an "outlet" for your feelings. try painting, writing songs, writing poems, or anything like that. if you need more suggestions, just let me know. find something that you like and that can help you express yourself in different ways. i promise, it will help, as long as you are doing something you like to do.

but my advice is to talk to someone so that you can get help. it probably won't sound like fun at first and you probably won't like it. but i know, in due time, that everything will work out for you and it can save your life.

- dr.b

[iloveyoutoodude.]

oh...speaking of eating disorders.

my entire family and freinds think i have one because im not 'skinny' and like im NEVER hungary, and like they think im starving my self, but im not, i mean i eat when im hungary and like my mom forces me to eat sometimes, and my pants are getting really big and so are my shirts... and like theres something wrong with my stomach, the doctor already said...

ehhh.

[Bekah]

oh...speaking of eating disorders.

my entire family and freinds think i have one because im not 'skinny' and like im NEVER hungary, and like they think im starving my self, but im not, i mean i eat when im hungary and like my mom forces me to eat sometimes, and my pants are getting really big and so are my shirts... and like theres something wrong with my stomach, the doctor already said...

ehhh.

some people have faster metabolisms than others. and that might be your case.

i know personally that when you're accused of being anorexic, it doesn't make you feel your best. but your family and friends are just trying to look out for you. just try to explain to your parents that you know the risks of eating disorders and that you'd never put yourself through that. you're still growing and your hormones are changing and it effects your eating habits, weight, and everything like that. it's never good to over-eat, so don't force yourself to eat just to make others happy. tell them that you'll eat when your hungry and you'll stop when you're full.

they should understand that.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

some people have faster metabolisms than others. and that might be your case.

i know personally that when you're accused of being anorexic, it doesn't make you feel your best. but your family and friends are just trying to look out for you. just try to explain to your parents that you know the risks of eating disorders and that you'd never put yourself through that. you're still growing and your hormones are changing and it effects your eating habits, weight, and everything like that. it's never good to over-eat, so don't force yourself to eat just to make others happy. tell them that you'll eat when your hungry and you'll stop when you're full.

they should understand that.
yea. im always saying that im not that stupid to friggen do that to my self. but they still make a big deal over it...

[Bekah]

hm...
then that's pretty much all you can do. if they don't believe you, then it's their fault.

i hate when people think you're in denial

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha. true

[_Solemn.Hour]

I got one for ya Bekah


Ok so my birthday is tomorrow and I am gonna turn 15,
and my parents want to have a little get together with my
aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. and usually I am all for it
because I get more presents or whatever, but this year I just
don't want one, and my mom wants to have it on this Saturday
so I gotta tell her I don't want one and I gotta do it soon! but....
How should I tell her without an explanation? because I really don't
know why I don't want one this year, so I can't really explain it....


Signed
Birthday Blues.

[Bekah]

dear birthday blues,

i'm sure your mom will understand if you don't want to have a get-together with your family. just tell her that you want a small thing with your family [if you do. if you want to do something differently, then just substitute it in there]. it's a new year for you, so if you want to do something new for your birthday, you should be able to, even without an explanation.

but just tell her what you just told me, and i'm sure she'll understand.

happy early birthday


-dr.b

[_Solemn.Hour]

^ Thanks Doc!
your very helpful =)

[jamaican girl]

dear doc

i like this guy
he goes to my sister church
i've known him from pre k
we were always so competitive
but i like him what should i do?

Sign: Confused

[efronjonas.]

don't worry about it! i'm sure everything will work out. if ray asks you, smile, say yes and tell him thanks. then, that's all you have to even think about...until friday
( :

on friday, if you and ray do go together, you might want to tell him up front that you're not a big dancer [like, you don't really like to dance]. he'll porbably get the picture, and that way, if you're nervous about slow dancing, he'll know it's because you don't really like to dance. but if a fast song and you feel like busting a move, then tell him that you just like the fast-paced songs. he'll understand about the slow-dancing thing.

and if you don't get asked, it's no big deal! get a group of your girl friends and go with them. you'll be sure to have fun when you're around your friends!

if you feel like it, you might want to ask ray to the dance. you can be like "hey, ray...are you going to the dance on friday? want to go with me?" or something. it doesn't have to be nerve-wracking, but just casual. i'm sure things will work out
( :

- dr.b
thanks so much bekah! ur the greatest! ilu!

[JESUSica.walks]

lyke omgsh doctor.

theres this girl
named beckah
and shes superrr gorgeous.

should i tell her?

[Bekah]

dear confused,

maybe you should tell him in a competitive way. like a bet, almost. tell him that you two should race. the loser has to tell a secret or something. that way, if you win, he might tell you he likes you or he might tell you something else and if you lose, you could tell him you like him.

but if you don't want to, then try to act as normal as possible. he probably won't notice it if you act the same. but the biggest rule is: that if you want a guy to know you like him without telling him, ACT DIFFERENTLY.

it just depends on how you want to approach it.

( :

- dr.b

[Bekah]

thanks so much bekah! ur the greatest! ilu!

aw, thanks!


lyke omgsh doctor.

theres this girl
named beckah
and shes superrr gorgeous.

should i tell her?

definitely not
i mean, you'd come off sounding like a lesbian.
( :

[JESUSica.walks]

lmao.
ahh ur right;
but im not a lesbian..
so ahhaaa..

i win.

[Bekah]

haha
ilyssssssssssoooooooooooomuch
( :

[JESUSica.walks]

hmm i suppose
ilysm2.. but lyke ur
a dotor and u might get sued for
like sexually harrasing me..lmao

[Bekah]

hm.
true.
how 'bout i give you a sucker and you forget about it
( :

[jamaican girl]

omg your a genious

but he's realy smart but i am too but he's smarter that me FOR NOW lol

so what if he does not like me back

[Bekah]

if he doesn't like you, don't let it be a downer.
it's okay if the feelings aren't mutual, although i know it might be hard at first.
just nodd and say it's okay, if he tells you he doesn't like you.
again, act normal

maybe it would be best if you two were just friends.
who knows what the future will hold.

[jamaican girl]

okay

thanks

[Bekah]

no problem

[JESUSica.walks]

hm.
true.
how 'bout i give you a sucker and you forget about it
( :

what kind of sucker?
like a candy sucker?
or like a different sucker?


lol

[Bekah]

lmao.

a cherry lollipop?

[ilovetroy!]

wow! i don't have any problems right now, but i know where to come if i do! u give gread advice!

[sofixftw]

dear double-you,

well, if you know for sure those guys like you, you should just tell them that you value your friendship, but that's it. you've got to make sure you say it in a way that makes them understand that it's just friendship. otherwise, they'll think you want more...egh.

and since you're, lyke, a huge flirt, you might want to STOP FLIRTING, you little flirt-er, you.
KiDDiNG.
ilovemysofi.

anyways, yeah. uh huh.
yep.

( :

ahahahha. idk. i was ASSUMING. that they like me. i just wanted to know if they did.
aslfkajsflkajgh. shxt. lol.

oh and i learned from the best (: lol.
KiiDING. i love bekah =]

[Bekah]

wow! i don't have any problems right now, but i know where to come if i do! u give gread advice!

thanks!


ahahahha. idk. i was ASSUMING. that they like me. i just wanted to know if they did.
aslfkajsflkajgh. shxt. lol.

oh and i learned from the best (: lol.
KiiDING. i love bekah =]

haha, you know it.

[sofixftw]

................i was just being niice.








lol jk. yea, i know it. ily.
i have LyKE. so manyy questions, but i dont want to "shove: them on you.
so like yea.

[JESUSica.walks]

lmao.

a cherry lollipop?

hmm.
FINE;
next time it better be
SOUR APPLE =]

[Bekah]

................i was just being niice.








lol jk. yea, i know it. ily.
i have LyKE. so manyy questions, but i dont want to "shove: them on you.
so like yea.

i'm ready when you're ready!



hmm.
FINE;
next time it better be
SOUR APPLE =]

sure thing, miss.
how was the concert?

[iloveyoutoodude.]

bekahhhhh.
jane just broke up with drew. and i think i like him again. life sucks. grrr. whats a girl to do?


-pffft. boys stink.

lmao.

[Bekah]

well, that's a good thing then.

drew time!!

[iloveyoutoodude.]

hahaha. true. he was staring at me today in classs =]

[Bekah]

oh then yes. totally.
start the sparks, missy!

[iloveyoutoodude.]

hahaha.
today=more staring <3

andd. theres a dance tonight.

[Bekah]

can you say "awesome opportunity"?
( :

[Bekah]

how was the dance, jordyn?

[iloveyoutoodude.]

ehh.
jane and i had a tlak. she was sad. he wont give her a reason why he broke up with her. booooo.

haha. other than that it was good=]

[Bekah]

aah, boo on jane.
how was drew?
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

drew was a friggen showoff. but we looked at eachother... alot

haha

[Bekah]

haha
that's my guuuurrl.
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

haha.
and today???

famazing [study hall] like. i came into his class to get help or look for something, and hes like 'well if i have to sit down, so does she' and he pointed next to him =]=]

[Bekah]

aaw,
go get 'em, girl
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

hahaha. i wish. im not 'pretty enough or skinny enough' according to my brother.

annnd. i kinda agree. but.ehhh.

[Bekah]

eh, don't listen to your brother.
they always say things like that. and they're also protective, so they don't want any guy even thinking about liking you.
that's just how they are
lkjsadf
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

hahaha. youre like the sister i never had.
lmao.

[Bekah]

aaw,
so sweet
i feel special
( :

[iloveyoutoodude.]

awww.
haha.
as dani said,
'you should be kiddo'
haha.

[Bekah]

haha.
( :

[Bekah]

bump.
i'm still open, by the way

[_antiphony]

all right, let's see if u can help me with this

my parents died a few years ago, but i still have a million people coming up to me saying "Oh my god, i'm so sorry". Just when i think i'm moving on someone comes along and reminds me that i lost them. I know they're just trying to be nice, but i want to tell them to get out of my face in a nice way. Did that make sense?
Also, how do you ditch a crappy repuation? I'm known as the school's tough girl, and I'm not. And people are scared of me and I've never done anything to them.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

beks!
more boy problems.
what a shocker right?

okay.
so like...i have no clue wath we called the chick wiht...like drew i think it was? like jane? but anyway so like they broke up. and at first i was like "YES!" but then like. im overhim now. like fooooor good. and anyway. now [jane] is going out with my gooood freind cameron. but like i really really really really like cameron. and like we talk all the time and like flirt alot. but hes going out with her. it sucks. do i...
a] move on
b] ignore it and hope for the best
c] your idea??

[Bekah]

well, i know you don't want me to say this, but i really am sorry to hear about your parents. i don't know how i would handle that if that was my situation. but on to you, not me-

the people are only asking you because they know it had to have been hard for you at the beginning. and i know that i can be amazingly annoying when the same questions are asked over and over, especially over a long period of time.

so next time someone asks, here's how you can reply "i'm fine, really. i'll let you know if i ever need anything" or "you don't have to keep asking me that" or something. i'm sure they'll understand. because i would hate for people to keep bringing up something like that years afterward. it kind of hurts, doesn't it?

they should get the meaning of it and hopefully, they'll stop. but if they don't, just learn to cope with it. it might continue on until you're married and have kids. who knows.

at school, try to meet new people. if other students notice that you're making new friends, it must mean that you're not as tough as everyone thinks. if it's hard making friends, ask a person in your class that you feel a comfortable with to help you. you don't necessarily have to be friends with that person at first, but i'm sure it will get there in no time.

join clubs or organizations to get to know people better. you might even want to be outgoing for a few weeks just to show people how not-tough you are. hey, you can even cry in a class or something (only if you really want to show them you're not tough. but i'm not really recommending this, but i mean, you get the point)

- dr. bootle

[Bekah]

beks!
more boy problems.
what a shocker right?

okay.
so like...i have no clue wath we called the chick wiht...like drew i think it was? like jane? but anyway so like they broke up. and at first i was like "YES!" but then like. im overhim now. like fooooor good. and anyway. now [jane] is going out with my gooood freind cameron. but like i really really really really like cameron. and like we talk all the time and like flirt alot. but hes going out with her. it sucks. do i...
a] move on
b] ignore it and hope for the best
c] your idea??

jordyn!
welcome back.

drew and jane, yes it was. and i'm glad to hear that they broke up but it sucks that you've moved on. well, not really, because it's good that you did. but whatever.
moving on-
it's weird how jane always gets with your crushes. not cool at all. but i wouldn't chose a or b just yet. continue to flirt a little and still be good friends with cameron. maybe he feels the same way, but just doesn't think that you do, so he's trying to hide it by going out with jane. am i making sense?

just do the daily routine. hopefully it will get you somewhere.

if nothing progresses in a week, come see the doctor again
( :

- dr.

[iloveyoutoodude.]

jordyn!
welcome back.

drew and jane, yes it was. and i'm glad to hear that they broke up but it sucks that you've moved on. well, not really, because it's good that you did. but whatever.
moving on-
it's weird how jane always gets with your crushes. not cool at all. but i wouldn't chose a or b just yet. continue to flirt a little and still be good friends with cameron. maybe he feels the same way, but just doesn't think that you do, so he's trying to hide it by going out with jane. am i making sense?

just do the daily routine. hopefully it will get you somewhere.

if nothing progresses in a week, come see the doctor again
( :

- dr.
haha will do.
i see him everyday.
i havelike 7 pictures of him in my phone.
youd think the guy could take a hint.
and jane is honestly nothing but a sk.ank.

[Bekah]

haha.
then maybe you'll get lucky this time
( :

[_antiphony]

well, i know you don't want me to say this, but i really am sorry to hear about your parents. i don't know how i would handle that if that was my situation. but on to you, not me-

the people are only asking you because they know it had to have been hard for you at the beginning. and i know that i can be amazingly annoying when the same questions are asked over and over, especially over a long period of time.

so next time someone asks, here's how you can reply "i'm fine, really. i'll let you know if i ever need anything" or "you don't have to keep asking me that" or something. i'm sure they'll understand. because i would hate for people to keep bringing up something like that years afterward. it kind of hurts, doesn't it?

they should get the meaning of it and hopefully, they'll stop. but if they don't, just learn to cope with it. it might continue on until you're married and have kids. who knows.

at school, try to meet new people. if other students notice that you're making new friends, it must mean that you're not as tough as everyone thinks. if it's hard making friends, ask a person in your class that you feel a comfortable with to help you. you don't necessarily have to be friends with that person at first, but i'm sure it will get there in no time.

join clubs or organizations to get to know people better. you might even want to be outgoing for a few weeks just to show people how not-tough you are. hey, you can even cry in a class or something (only if you really want to show them you're not tough. but i'm not really recommending this, but i mean, you get the point)

- dr. bootle


all right, that's actually pretty good, thanks so much!

[Bekah]

glad to help!

[Bekah]

still in business
( :